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MissSmarty
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Hey everybody!

The elusive pelvic/groin pain saga continues with me.

I recently have had a pelvic ultra sound and probe, a urinalysis, and a pap smear and pelvic exam. My pap smear was normal. I had a cyst on one of my ovaries, but the doc said it was the kind that women often get when they ovulate. I was told sometimes we just have unexplained pains.

Heres the thing: it went away for a while. It came back I noticed the day after my boyfriend, who I had not seen in a month, gave me oral sex. I want to make a connection here but I don't know what. I went with him to the clinic and he doesn't have stds. I don't either.

Does he just get too rough down there or does his saliva irritate my vagina somehow?

It has this wierd tightness feeling to it. It doesn't hurt too much, it is just barely there, enough to be irritating. And it is right underneath on my groin between my upper legs. Any insight is appreciated.

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quote:
Originally posted by MissSmarty:
... or does his saliva irritate my vagina somehow?

this doesn't answer any of your questions, but are you not using any dental dams [etc.] ? Because if you are and using them correctly, his saliva should have nothing to do with it. If your not, why? Sorry my probing, its just not safe.

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No we haven't been using dental dams. But how is it not safe if he and I both know we are STD free? He and I have been together for over a year and he has been tested. I haven't been with anyone else.

I was asking if it is possible that my body just doesn't take to oral well or something?

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heard of STI's?

Anyway yes it is possible that your body doesn't "take to it" well. Or he could be too rough. Im not sure anybody could really give you a better answer than you and your doc.

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Samantha, the OP says in both her posts she and her partner do not have STI's.

(Having said that, have YOU been tested for STI's too, or just your partner? Being a virgin is not a get out of jail free card - some STI's can be passed on without sexual contact, as well.)

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sorry to be clueless and confused, ladydexter, but are you talking to me or MissSmarty?

(If you are talking to me i am not and never been sexually active in any way, or plan to be, and also single.)

[ 07-19-2006, 06:36 PM: Message edited by: samantha357 ]

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Prime example of where I should pay more attention to what I type. Doink. [Big Grin]

I was asking the OP.

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ok ok just making sure! [Wink]

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I have not been tested for STI's, but I really have not been with ANYONE but him. I can't think of another STI I could have without sexual contact besides herpes. Is this what you are refering to? I highly doubt that I have it though. Anyways, we use condoms when I do oral on him.

If I had an sti without having sex, it wouldn't be one that would produce the symptoms I have and I wouldn't have yielded a good pap smear test. So maybe I do just need to call my doctor monday. I just hate asking these kind of questions.

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The easy way to find out with this, really, would to be to use dental dams for a while: say a month.

If you see an improvement, you know that something about oral sex is the issue, be it a sensitivity to your partner's toothpaste, or a possible oral infection he might have going on, etc.

Can you try, too, to really describe, in detail what this pain FEELs like? For instance, is it an itchy type, or more a feeling of rawness? Is it exclusive to one area of your vulva, or pelvic overall? Does it get better or worse with sexual arousal, etc?

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I called the doctor and got ahold of her nurse. She asked me the basic questions of where is it? and is the pain worse with sexual arousal. I tried my best to describe it was a sore, hot feeling inside. It feels icky the next day. Like my vagina is trying to purge itself of all the spit. (sorry, I know that sounds gross)

It is just an "off" sticky sore feeling on the inside and then over the next few days it faded and now it just feels a little tight on the underneath of the perenium and right where my vagina starts curving downwards. I try to do stretches and it seems to help.
The word that comes to mind when describing it is a diseased feeling. I think for the longest time I thought it had to be some horrible disease. I have issues with this to say the least.

My sister died of cancer when I was just a baby. I have always somehow thought because she got sick that I would to. I have talked about this with my mom and my doctor.

The nurse said she would talk to the doc and get back to me, but that I probably needed to just pay attention to see if it is related to the oral. It might have been a coincidence. The dental dam thing is a great idea.

This may sound cooky - but part of me thinks that I have somehow created this pain. When I first got together with my boyfriend I felt guilty for the sexual activity. I was thinking I would be punished by God or something. I don't know.

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