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well hey. new here.
understand this is kinda embarassin for me lol. but heck we've all been there.

Well anyway, theres a high possibility that me an my girlfriend may be doin things (probably head) on the weekend. Well i'll admit, ive never done it before and im not too embarassd about not having done it.
However i dont know what to do, i just want advice on what i need to do...what would she be lookin for from long should i last....when im at *that point* (im sure u know what pointim talking about) what do i tell her an turn round an do the business lol, or well Cum on her in her mouth...really confused...

probs too much porn or something lol.

anyhelp is much appreciated.


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Semen presents an STD risk, so I'd reccomend you use a flavored condom. Then, you don't have to worry about finishing in her mouth or not. Plus, clean up is easier [Smile]

[ 05-22-2006, 05:11 PM: Message edited by: twentysix ]

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Oral sex does present an STI transmission risk, so your girlfriend swallowing or not should be a non-issue. There are flavoured condoms available, or you can use a regular condom with some flavoured lube.

As for how long you should last and what your girlfriend wants? You last as long as you last; no one's timing you, orgasm happens when it happens. We can't tell you what your girlfriend will be expecting, you'll have to talk to her about that. Communication is pretty key to any kind of sex, so just keep talking, make sure you're both comfortable, and you should be fine.

You may also want to have a look at this article: Mouthing Off On Oral Sex

[ 05-22-2006, 07:57 PM: Message edited by: karybu ]

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Cheers for the help, much appreciated. 6" an a bit an im 16yrs this going to be a disapointment to her (or most ladies in general)i just dont wan't to get ripped by all girls if im crap or too small etc...and it a disapointment for you if the man to not be fully erect when you pull down the trousers....

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Do you trust your partner?

If you're going to be having any sort of sex with her, hopefully, you do. And that given, you should be able to discuss -- with any partner -- concerns like you're having, including who you're comfortable with your partner sharing with per the priavate sex the two of you are/may be having.

Women aren't the only people who have sex with men, so this really isn't an issue of what the "ladies" think alone. But anyone mature enough to be having sex should be mature enough to understand how genitals work. Very few women will always take THEIR pants off and be immediately and fully aroused all of the time, so anyone who expected that of men would have a pretty unrealistic expectation.

As well, know that concerns about penis size are generally MALE concerns. When women care about size, or say they do, it's generally a power issue, even a reflection of men making breast size and such a public issue. But practically speaking, especially since for the majority of women, NO penis size is going to equal instant ecstacy, as the majority of women will not be fully satisfied by intercourse alone, that's not something most women are particularly concerned about. It's really men who are all kookoo-nutty about how big or small their penises are, not women.

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Honestly, I don't know why everyone thinks that talking to your partner about what's going on during sex will "ruin the mood". If you trust your partner, it doesn't ruin the mood. It actually makes it much better. Would you rather continue in a way that's uncomfortable for you or your partner without saying anything, or get it out in the open so you can correct the problem and make things more enjoyable for everyone? If you don't know what she likes or doesn't like, or you are unsure of yourself, talk to her about it. You might be nervous, but she's probably nervous as well, and talking will make you both more at ease.
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