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Hello_you
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Im 17 male.

When me and my girlfriend decided to have sex, it was fine up untill i started to move my erect penis towards her vagina when it started to not be hard enough. later on she also tried to give me a blow job but i went all flacid.

She said it was just because i was nervous and it was ok, but i didnt feel nervous. I was really excited as i knew it was going to be special.
Ive had no problems during masturbation before.

Is there something wrong with me? Should i go to the doctor?

[ 04-07-2006, 06:43 PM: Message edited by: Hello_you ]

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dailicious
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There's probably nothing wrong you, in all likelihood, what you're experiencing ARE just nerves, even if you don't feel them right out.

In the future, just be sure you take your time, be relaxed (this will be good for her as well) and try not to worry about it- think of it this way, if it happens, it happens, just go back to doing more foreplay or other activities.

Remember- the more you think about it or worry over it, the more it's going to keep happening, so doing your best to think of it as no big deal and keep it off your mind should help!

This article may help a bit, too: Erectile Dysfunction

[ 04-07-2006, 06:57 PM: Message edited by: dailicious ]

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Hello_you
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Its happened a few times now and i dont know what to do. Im not sure if im going flacid when i get near her vagina or if im never fully erect or if shes just too tight, but then i try and push my penis in it never goes in her. My girlfriends always really wet when im trying and she seems to think that if i use lubricant next time it will work, but im not sure. I tihnk its a problem with me.

Can i ask: The head of the penis while erect, is this meant to be hard? When i push it with my finger should i be able to quite easily do that and for it not to feel hard?

Thanks for reading.

[ 07-20-2006, 12:25 PM: Message edited by: Hello_you ]

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princessArae
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that happened to me once...my longtime xbf and i when we were still dating decided to have sex, both our first time. we got so far as to have a condom on and was ready to penetrate, when he went completely limp. to make matters worse, as he tried to fix himself, his mom called him. now i think of it as a godsend because i really didnt want to have sex with him and if we would have had sex, it would have been one of the biggest mistakes i ever made (besides ever dating him in the first place).

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isabelle
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THAT HAPPENED WITH MY BOYFRIEND TOO(on his first time)
the next night we tried to just do it and not be all antsy and anticipating and all that stuff just let it flow and it worked real well [Wink]

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kapler44
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the same exact thing happened to my boyfriend our first time.
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