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VingilotSilmaril
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my boyfriend and i have recently started having sex a few weeks ago. we are both each others' first so we're pretty inexperienced. i get aroused for him and want to have sex, but when we do have sex i don't hardly feel anything at all. i can't even tell when he's moving in and out. i don't breathe heavy or anything. he keeps asking what he's doing wrong and i keep saying that it must be something on my end because he is quite large (6 1/2 inches) and "finishes" every time. he keeps thinking that he's just really bad in the sack, but i really think it must be something wrong with me. what could be wrong? and what can i do?

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Karybu
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Congratulations, you're perfectly normal. Here's the deal - the vaginal canal doesn't have a heck of a lot of nerve endings. Most women don't orgasm or even necessarily get a lot of enjoyment out of just plain intercourse, because it's just not the way our bodies are built. (Most women find they need some sort of clitoral stimulation.) The thing is, intercourse is only one form of sex, so if intercourse isn't what does it for you, add something else into the mix - oral or manual sex, masturbation, what have you. And if you don't know what you like, it'll help a lot if you start by figuring that out on your own with your own two hands. That way, you can incorporate things you enjoy into sex.

There's an article on the main site you might find helpful, about sexual response:
Sexual Response and Orgasm: A User's Guide


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VingilotSilmaril
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thank you much. now i get to tell him there's nothin wrong with him! hehe
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Heather
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As well:
Yield for Pleasure (or, why chilling out with intercourse can improve your sex life)
Ten of the Best Things You Can Do For Your Sexual Self (at any age)

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