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Necklace
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I read the article on the front page of the website about painful intercourse and searched for this specific question but I didn't find what I was looking for, so I thought I'd ask. Although I'm very aroused before having penetrative sex and using lube, I find that it is painful. To be specific, the pain is at the vaginal opening. I'm not sure what could be causing this. At first I thought it might be my hymen but after having sex for more than six months I doubt it is still that. What could be causing pain specifically at the opening of my vagina?
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DarkChild717
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It could be a lot of things, but in this case, a visit to an OB/GYN would be in order. It is possible to have issues with the hymen, though it is rare.

If you're using plenty of lube and are aroused, there shouldn't be pain. But since there is, a visit to your doctor would be best.


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Necklace
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Thanks very much for your response, DarkChild717. I did go to the doctor about 4 months ago for this problem and she told me that I should try to "stretch out" my vaginal opening with my fingers and she said I should do it everyday. That honestly sounded a bit weird and dodgy to me. I didn't last very long doing that because it didn't really seem to be helping or to be a very good idea. Does that sound weird to anyone else or would that actually help if I kept it up? Maybe I need a new doctor?
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JamsessionVT
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That's not exactly sound advice.

The vagina doesn't stretch. Well, it does, but not in that sense. Like other muscles, it will return to its normal state. So, if you are aroused, it will loosen, the cervix will move back slightly, etc. But it doesn't stay like that forever. So telling you to stretch it won't exactly help.

You said the pain is at the opening of your vagina? Is there any inflammation, itchiness, redness, etc? When was the last time you had a full OB/GYN exam? Has this always been occuring, or did it just start? Do you know what is normal looking for your genitals?

I would go to a different doc. If the advice that you get isn't sound or is a little wierd, get another opinion.

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Necklace
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Thanks for the advice JamsessionVT. I didn't think my doctor's advice was very good either! Just to answer the questions you asked me, maybe it'll help! There isn't any itchiness, redness or inflammation and everything looks normal for my vagina. However, the vaginal opening and surrounding area do feel and look inflamed, raw and red after intercourse. And this has happened since I started engaging in intercourse 6 months ago. The last time I had a full gynecologist exam was about 4 months ago and that's when my doctor gave me the weird advice. I do think it's weird that it feels and looks raw and inflamed after sex.
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Heather
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Did your doctor say your vagina needed stretching, or your hymen? That's an important distinction, which is why I ask.

The hymen wears away slowly, usually through childhood and adolescence, but some hymens are more resilient -- less likely to do that easily -- than others, and in those cases, yes, some "stretching" can be helpful. And if that's the case, then yeah, even with lube and high arousal, you may have some irritation. (And remember, not all hymens look alike, and even after intercourse for a while, as I said above, some partial hymens can stick around.)

I'd say your best bet would be to get a second opinion from a different gynecologist. It might be sage when seeking one out to ask for one who also has some background in sexual pain or difficulties: not all do.


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