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Why me?
Neophyte
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Ok my girlfreind and I have starded on sex, its about the third time we done it and we starded to talk about oral sex. we were both Virgins so we are starding to speriment. My question is: Can we get Std from oral sex even if it's the first time for the us? We both tested our self of HIV before we didred, since we know than you can get it non sexualy.

Another question:
In curius to know, can you get HIV for kissing someone with HIV?


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ladydexter
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From memory, HIV CAN be spread by saliva, but it's very unlikely - in fact, to contract it, you'd have to have an open sore in your mouth, as saliva is vicious stuff and tends to eat viruses like HIV. If you've tested clear for HIV, you cannot get it from any activity, sexual or non sexual, with each other. HIV is mainly spread through blood.

As for STD + oral sex? Yes, you can. Things like herpes are spread non-sexually. See those coldsores? Those are herpes. Perform oral sex with one of those present and no barrier method (condom/dental dam)? Your partner could get herpes from that.

So have a full STD test and another in six months, if you want to make sure you're clear. Don't think because you're both virgins you don't have anything, as like you said yourself, some are spread non-sexually. Until you've had those tests six months from now, use a condom or dental dam for oral sex. That way, if either or you has something like herpes, you are less likely to pass it on.


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I recently had oral sex with my girlfriend (she gave me oral sex, just to clarify) and soon after I started noticing little blotches that looked like acne on my penis. She started complaining about a cold soar the day after (I don't know if it was there or not at the time of the oral sex) I've had acne there before, but now it's kinda itchy and has been for about a week. Is it herpes? Do I have to treat it? Do I have to go see a doctor? I hadn't even considered herpes as a factor until I read this post... now I'm a little worried.
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Yes! If you have sores on your penis, the only time you can be checked for herpes is now. I would recommend you see a doctor right away, since we can't know for sure, but your doctor will be able to tell. It sounds possible, especially since cold sore/herpes virus is most contagious right before the sore breaks out (ie: when it's not visible yet) which is why we recommend condoms for oral sex.
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Thax for the reply, now i feel safer to know that information, so I should use a condon durin oral sex. I have anoter question could you explain what is the dental dam you mentioned. In from a spanish speaking country so i really don't know what that means, maybe it's hads another name in spanish so i what to know what it is ans well if it's posible how does it look like.

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ladydexter--
Correction on your post--HIV is not transmitted through saliva. HIV is transmitted not only by blood, but through breast milk, semen, and vaginal fluids.

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JamsessionVT
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You know plastic wrap (or even the material condoms are made out of?) A dental dam is pretty much a thin sheet of plastic that you lay over the vagina during oral sex. You can buy them, or just cut a condom down so it lays flat.
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LilBlueSmurf
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Actually, HIV can be transmitted through saliva, but as ladydexeter pointed out, it's not too common.

STI File: Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV)

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Neophyte
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Breast milk, well thats some new info!!!!!

I have another question, i prefer to post it here than creating a new post so here it goes.

I know that the best way to protect your self from STD is using a condon, and taking a std test, but what else can my girl friend and I do to be safe? She uses a diaphragm and I use a condom when we are doing it, but thats just to not get pregnant. Diaphragms don't protect against STDs, do they?

Ps: I apologize for any mispellings in my writing.

Ps2: this is the part i edited, i forgot to write it
How many STD are ther, how are they all transmmited, what are their symptoms, and which are curable and which are not. Plz reply to my questions i'll be forever thankfull, if you have an articule about it plz post the link, since i have search but i want detailed info about then.

Just editing for grammer/spelling mistakes for readability. It was mostly just typos -Jam

[This message has been edited by Why me? (edited 11-21-2005).]

[This message has been edited by JamsessionVT (edited 11-21-2005).]


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No, diaphragms don't protect against infection. Condoms are the only method of birthcontrol that do.

Really, if you two have been tested for STD's (that's two tests 6 months apart), and are using condoms for ALL sexual contact (this includes oral sex and anal sex), I'd say you're pretty well off. What else can you do? To decrease chances of infection, don't share razors, toothbrushes, etc. Not that you would, but having partners who haven't been tested is a no-no too.

As for all the STDs, it would take forever to list them all with the information you want. I can't imagine why you haven't found info about them if you searched. But here is a good link:

The Infection Section


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In response to my last post, the sores went away 3-4 days later. Is there any kind of self-evaluation I can do? Do I really have to go to the gyno What are the negative effects of herpes?
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Herpes isn't usually a serious disease, but why do you want to play around with your health by not seeing a doctor? Slef-diagnosis is usually a pretty lousy idea just because the average person doesn't possess the medical knowledge needed to make an accurate one. There are other diseases that have sores as a possible symptom. Why take the risk of becoming seriously ill when you can know now?
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There are no gynos near where I am, and my doctor tends to tell my parents everything I tell him. I just don't know what I should do.
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