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Babybluemila
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so i want to have sex...and after reading the sex articles from this site im thinking im not ready...or scared i might get pregnant...and I know I love mmy bf or 3 months...and i know that he would never like do anything to take advantage of me and like try to get me pregnant cause he noes that its not in my plan..and he wants to be safe...but i dont know what i should do...if i should wait.even though i made it clear that i want to do..cause i also have none of the things on the checklist and im 18..im just confused and i need advice..help me please!!!!!

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Heather
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I think you pretty clearly answered your own questions here.

1. You don't feel ready.
2. You don't have anything in place you need to be ready.

1 + 2 = you're not ready. And that's fine. You just wait until you are, and in the meantime, you start cultivating some of the things you need to be ready so they're in place when you actually are.


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bloodyashes
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I wish i got to tell guys this more but i dont'get a chance if you want to wait do it. I wish to god my future husabdn had waited but he didn't. Don't do something you will regret. But dont' stop yourself for doing it because you are scarde of being pregnant, STDs yes but not pregnant, if you are safe you wont get pregnant and if you were safe and you do, dotn' you think it happend for a reason and it was part of a plan. Remember that there are never accedents in getting pregnant.
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Heather
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Your last statement is blatantly false, bloodyashes.

To date, we have NO birth control method that is 100% effective. Not a one.

So, while methods used consistently and correctly to the letter are very unlikely to fail? They still sometimes do.


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Babybluemila
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miz scarlet...i think your right about me not being ready...and i guess i should prepare myself more...and i talked about it with my boyfriend...told him that i read this thing with the checklist and he said that he's not trying to rush me cause it is my first time. BUt he also told me that i wouldn't have to go on like birthcontrol pills...cause he will where a condom. ANd bloody ashes I dont know why im scared of getting pregnaut i swear if i do have sex with him...thats all im going to think about after...or maybe a little after. i dont know why its one of my biggest fears...ove been check for std's and so has he so i know he's clean and i am...

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LilBlueSmurf
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Whether or not you go on birth control pills should be your choice and yours alone. Whether or not you're on the pill really doesn't affect your partner at all, and if you're more comfortable in knowing you have a backup method of birth control (in addition to condoms, of course), then it's all been worth it.

You and your partner should probably discuss all of this with your doctor. We usually suggest that partners get their STI testing together. You can discuss any issues you have w/ sexuality and birth control with your doctor at this time.


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Heather
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Are you SURE you've had a full STI screening? I ask, because you say you have had none of the things on th checklist, and one of those things is a pelvic/gynecologisal exam. If you have not started those each year yet, then you have NOT been screened for all STIs yet, either.

And if your partner hasn't expressly asked his doctor for a full STI screen, he hasn't had it either. And you'd both want to have one of those in the last six months, as you're newly together. Very few young men have had those screenings, eve less often than young women have. However, a lot of teens assume they have had them in general checkups, even though that's not generally included in a general exam. An HIV test is not a full STI screening, and neither is basic urine or bloodwork done for other purposes.


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