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Dsexygurl
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I have only had sex twice since i recently lost my virginity. My boyfriend was talkin to me and jokingly but serious said that I dont do anything while having sex example : moan scratch etc etc. I dont want him to think im not enjoying it cause I am....what can I do? Am I this way because I just recently lost it?
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Lindsay*Marie
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I have this problem too!!, But i lost my virginity a long time ago..i posted mine under body and soul. I dont know what to do either, I was told you will not enjoy it like showing much emotion until like your 4th time because its new and still kind of hurts so that could be the case for you, i dotn know what my prob is
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Dsexygurl
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i feel type relief hearing im not the only one...but hopefully is true what you say because I dont want him thinking he is doing something wrong or that he is not satisfying...
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Heather
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Really, this isn't a "problem."

Some people are quieter than others during sex. Sometimes that's due to sex being new, or having a new partner; sometimes it's just personality.

Bear in mind, too, that it's not uncommon for young adults -- especially young men -- to have elevated expectations of how women will react during sex. The media generally presents women as being very vocal during sex -- even something which isn't super-high-stimulating like vaginal intercourse alone. Some women are that way with some partners and some sex, others are not. Doesn't mean anything is wrong.

Obviously, if sex with a given partner isn't all that thrilling -- or is uncomfortable, which it really shouldn't be if everyone is communicating and responding to communicated wants and needs, even at first -- then explore more, talk about what you like, what feels best.

But if you're already doing all that and everything feels divine and you're just a quieter type in bed? No worries. If your partner is worried, then just talk about this, make clear you ARE enjoying yourself, but are just a quiet type.

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