Hi, I'm 16. My boyfriend of 7 months has tried fingering me many times but every time he does it, he can only stick about 1 inch of my finger in my vagina because it wont go in further. Well actually when he gets to this point it's like something is blocking him ((my hymen??)) & it hurts so I tell him not to go any further. Maybe because I'm nervous? But I don't really think that's it. Can you please help me with my problem? I'm sure there's a solution to this. Thanks so much, I really appreciate your time.
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Maybe since you have never had sexual intercourse and fingering is new to you it hurts. Try to relax and go with the flow and maybe it will hurt less. Also because u never had something go up there so its hurting the hymen I guess. The same thing happened to my friend the first two times but then you wont get any pain. Posts: 5 | From: Bronx,Nrw York ,usa | Registered: Nov 2005
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guidelines -- please don't double post. It is against guidelines and continuing to do so will result in your posting privileges being revoked. Thanks!
If you indeed to still have a partial hymen, it is located at your vaginal opening. So unless the pain/blocked feeling is actually right at the entrance of the vaginal canal, then it's not your hymen. Is your partner following the curve of your vaginal canal? Remember that it's not straight, but will be curved. So if your partner is poking without following your body, then he may be poking one of the walls of your vagina and that is what's causing the difficulty. Also, if you have not had your annual gyn exam, now's the time to do that.
(Double posting includes posting it in more than one forum -- you also put this topic in Ask Scarleteen minutes before you put it here. I deleted the post in the other forum.)
I'd at least suggest asking your partner about whether he realizes that your body is not a straight line and whether he is following your natural curves. Also, if you are having any bleeding or spotting afterward, you may be developing tiny tears which would indicate the need for gloves &/or more lubrication.
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