Most of the time, by the time a girl gets the to age where she has her first sexual encounter, her hymen has been well worn by sports, tampon use, and physical activity in general.
There are some, however, whose hymens may still cause them some pain.
But, remember, there are more reasons to have pain during sexual activity than just the hymen. Lack of lubrication, lack of arousal, anxiety...these can all cause pain. So before we jump and point fingers at the hymen (no pun intended), ask yourself: Am I aroused (i.e., am I relaxed and comfortable, not nervous or shaky?), am I using extra lubrication for my comfort? Do I want to/feel comfortable doing this activity?
Just remember to take it slow. There is no rush (or at least there shouldn't be) for stuff like this. Chances are it may not be your hymen, but something else listed above.
[This message has been edited by JamsessionVT (edited 11-01-2005).]