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wondering1211
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recently i went down my my gf and started to lick alot on her clitoris while doing the "come here" motion with my fingers on her g-spot....i dont know if she orgasmed or not but when i quit and looked up at her she was breathing like she had ran a mile as fast as she could lol and she started kissing me uncontrolably and she said her arm was numb and i could feel her legs shaking like CRAZY....so i stopped for about 10 mintues and then she said she had to urinate extremely bad....im just wondering if i gave her an orgasm or not and how can i know...what should i look for? thanks..
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JamsessionVT
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Does it really matter?

Judging by her reaction, I'd say yes. But, honestly, it isn't too important. The experience itself is and should a much bigger deal than whether a partner orgasmed or not.

(Really, it is anyone's guess. But as you can see, I don't like questions like these because it makes me think the poster finds whether or not they or their partner had an orgasm more important than the experience itself, or aspects that come from the experience. I'm not saying this is the case, nor trying to be mean )

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wondering1211
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woah now...the experience is the most important thing to me because i love her and i want to try and give her the best pleasure i can...i understad ur not tryign to be mean...it just kinda sounded like it....i mean..i was just wondering if i did...thats all..
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<oops, system wonk>

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dailicious
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(also? There's no way we can tell by a description. If you want to know if she has an orgasm, ask HER! )

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Is there really such a fine line between orgasming and not anyway? I mean sure for guys you can tell whether he ejaculated, and that's a pretty good indicator, but for girls is it similarly delineated?

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I think the problem with orgasm is that people think there IS a fine line, when there really isn't. Even for men, although for a lot it's orgasm+ejaculate=done, orgasm can happen without ejaculation, ejaculation can happen without orgasm, each orgasm can vary from the next.

I think it is believed, and this is how I see it myself anyway, that for a woman there's a rise and peak of orgasm, but how far that rise goes and where and what intesnsity that peak is varies person to person and experience to experience. So, for one person on one occassion, she (or he, I'm just using the female example on subject at the moment) may orgasm, but it way not reach the same sort of peak as another one had based on the experience or just her body's reaction/feeling/etc. that day. Does that make sense?

I think, also, since for men orgasm and ejaculation go very often hand in hand, there's a visable comformation, where as with a woman, while there are physical reactions that go along with orgasm (and for some even ejaculation themselves), it's not so cut and dry and easy to tell, which is why communication is important. It always comes back to communication.


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