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happymadison87
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My problem is this - I have a relatively new friend (we're not incredibly close, just buddies), and in all honesty, I would like nothing more than to perform oral sex on him. I know all about practicing safe sex, the emotional effects sex can have, etc. and I feel that I am mature enough to know my limits, but I have not idea how to go about asking my friend to be a f--- buddy, as they say. I'm a female and he's a straight male, we're the same age and we get along quite well, but I'm not very attractive (I'm not being modest; I'm quite plain), and I don't know what I should say - I don't want to scare him off, and if he doesn't feel the same way I do, I would still like to continue our friendship.
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Beppie
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My advice would be to get to know him a bit better. You say that you feel that you could handle all the emotional fallout etc, but your potential partner could be quite different, and could feel quite uncomfortable at such a request, which could damage the friendship that you wish to continue with him.

Concentrate on the friendship for now. Don't forget that, in terms of any fantasies you might have, there is always masturbation.


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platinumbbabi
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It sounds to me as though you're not doing too well with your confidence and i don't know if this type of relationship would be ideal for you. But ultimately you will do what you want. I just think if your that close of friends and your comfortable with each other (which you should be if your goin to perform sexual acts on one another) that you should just express the way u feel, and find out if he's game. If he says no then life moves on but at least u went out and tried getting something you wanted.
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It sounds to me as though you're not doing too well with your confidence and i don't know if this type of relationship would be ideal for you. But ultimately you will do what you want. I just think if your that close of friends and your comfortable with each other (which you should be if your goin to perform sexual acts on one another) that you should just express the way u feel, and find out if he's game. If he says no then life moves on but at least u went out and tried getting something you wanted.
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