Is it medically acknowledged that there is such a thing as "the point of no return" as a stage in sexual response, or is it just an urban myth? The theory of "the point of no return" is that when you have attained a certain level of necessary stimulation, you will experience the release of orgasm whatever happens - even if your grandma walks in, etc. etc.
[This message has been edited by NobodySaidItWasEasy (edited 10-10-2005).]
Heck, one can even have a buzzkill right in the MIDDLE of orgasm that cuts it off at the pass.
Remember, again, a majority of sexuality isn't physical, it's psychological and emotional.
So, per a question like this, or your last question about pressing one spot on anyone's body to guarantee orgasm or ejaculation, the answer is pretty much always going to be the same: a good way to know when you're dealing with either bunk or incomplete sex information is when it's presented as one-size-fits-all or as merely physiological.
My boyfriend talks about having a point of no return during sex, where he can't stop and just goes crazy till he ejaculates. Me on the other hand... I have been EXTREMELY close to an orgasm and then not done it for one reason or another. But I suppose in talking about this I am just talking about sex when we are alone together. If a grandparent walked in we'd probably both freak out and stop and cover up.... point of no return or not... because that would basically destroy the moment. So maybe the idea of the point of no return doesn't take into account outside distractions.
Just my own speculation.
[This message has been edited by icygirl88 (edited 10-10-2005).]
I think the point of no return is more a physical phenomenon. Certainly, after a certain amount of stimulation/arousal there comes (pardon the pun) a point after which a guy will ejaculate no matter what. This does not necessarily mean he will orgasm though. I've experienced plenty of times when I ejaculated, but didn't orgasm (though not often ).
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Someone can ALWAYS halt sexual activities without "going crazy." Icygirl, hopefully I'm misinterpreting your partner's approach, but in case I'm not, there is nothing, in either gender, which takes a sane person's sexual control away when they are aroused, at any poit. Nor will they go crazy if either a *certain* sexual activity doesn't continue (as in, a partner could easily swap from intercourse to masturbation without problems) or from halting the action altogether.
And yes, nobody, per PERVasive's comment, remember: ejaculation and orgasm in men are separate events. Often, they're interrelated, but not all the time. Sometimes men ejaculate without orgasm, sometimes they orgasm without ejaculation. That isn't to say neither are without pleasure or release.
I don't think it's a matter of "blue balls" or "going crazy." I think this PoNR (whether it's something real or not) is supposed to be a point where plateau will lead to orgasm, even if physical stimulation (or whatever) stops.
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