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NobodySaidItWasEasy
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I hope I can ask this question without causing offence or making generalisations. I do not mean to be explicit with this question - it is actually something which I have discussed and wondered about for a while.
I don't mean to generalise by referring only to heterosexual couples - this is just how I have considered it, but feel free to add.

so...here's what I wonder:

When a guys sees a girl's breast and sucks on it, why does he do it? Is it because he has seen it in porn/seen others do it/heard that it is the thing to do/heard that it "does it" for the girl? OR is there some completely natural, primeval urge that makes guys want to do this? Does the desire to suck on the breast come from within??

I'm a girl so I don't know. All I know is that all the guys I've been with have done it as if it's a completely natural thing. So I guess my question is....do guys copy each other in doing this, or is it just a natural desire which they all somehow have? It seems to be a very powerful urge.

I would appreciate any comments.

I guess it's a bit like the chicken and the egg - which came first? The guy wanting to do it, or the guy doing what he thought others do?

[This message has been edited by NobodySaidItWasEasy (edited 10-09-2005).]


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Both males an females are born with an urge to latch on to a nipple although this is purely for food. But nipple play can be a source of erotic pleasure in adult women (may also be in men but I don't know). Kate Millet has written that her nipples are hard-wired to her clitoris. It could be a simple urge to please a woman.

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I think it's both innate and learned. I think like a lot of sexual behaviors, everyone wouldn't necessarily think of it on their own, but after learning about it a lot of people probably find that it turns them on.

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(Let's please remember that not only are all people not heterosexual -- therefore, plenty of women also are attracted to breasts. I see your first comment, but really, there's likely no gender divide on why men are attracted to breasts and why women are, so making it gendered is a bit silly.

Might also want to realize that plenty of men and women alike also enjoy/are attracted to male nipples and breasts.)


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We men are attracted to boobs because of a natural instinct.

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I asked my boyfriend about this one, and he replied with, "they're fun. you can suck on them, nibble on them, rub them, play with them..." Haha, I found that response to be pretty good for a laugh..

I've personally always had this theory that guys always want to play with a toy if they don't have it. But I don't know how to apply that to lesbians/bisexuals. So.


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The reason I didn't ask about lesbian couples is that girls know already how charged nipples can be.
But why do guys want to suck on them?

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Because guys also know how charged female nipples can be. It isn't a secret.

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Yes but Bobo, that's my point. Do guys only do it cos they KNOW that the nipples are charged, or it is just a NATURAL feeling that the guys get?

of course nipples aren't a secret, but if they were, would guys still have the urge to suck on them??? I mean, it must have been first found out by someone who just had an impulse.

Basically, my question is...do guys do it because they know it is for the girl's pleasure, or do they get their own impulsive pleasure from it?

(P.S. Bobolink - of course nipples can be a source of pleasure in men. Someone once got totally slandered on this site for suggesting in a generalised sense that this was not the case. As with all people, it varies from person to person and man to man)

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quote:
Originally posted by NobodySaidItWasEasy:
(P.S. Bobolink - of course nipples can be a source of pleasure in men. Someone once got totally slandered on this site for suggesting in a generalised sense that this was not the case. As with all people, it varies from person to person and man to man)

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Really, you just answered your own question here. Some people do it for their partners pleasure, and some do it for their own pleasure. It depends on who you're talking to (and if you're talking about someone in particular, you should be asking them. I'm sure they'll have a better answer to your question).


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There's a tribe somewhere in the world where a common sexual activity is for a man to lick a live fish out of a woman's vagina.

They probably say this is "completely natural" too.


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quote:
The reason I didn't ask about lesbian couples is that girls know already how charged nipples can be.

And yet, plenty of women who don't get a rise out of having their own nipples sucked upon may feel they want to suck on the nipples of a partner, and not just for the partner's pleasure. Suckling -- on many body parts, not just breasts, and for all genders --produces pleasant sensations in the mouth, and likely by virtue of infantile associations, in the brain as well. And that first impulse to suck on nipples -- again, for either gender -- is pretty much the first thing any of us come to being knowing how to do, so where it comes from isn't very mysterious.

(Nobody: I don't mean to single you out, but you appear to be more than a little.... intense today, for lack of a better word. I might ask if you could chill out a little bit when you post here, please. Thanks.)


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Wondering if any other guys have any other comments on the urge to suck on women's breasts?

Not explicit please! just the natural feelings which surround this act.


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quote:
Originally posted by Mophead:
There's a tribe somewhere in the world where a common sexual activity is for a man to lick a live fish out of a woman's vagina.

They probably say this is "completely natural" too.



A live fish...wow. That'll definitely catch people's attention.


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