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ILoveRyanSeacrest29
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Okay, I'm just full of questions lately. lol And this seems like a good place to ask 'em.

So...(And I'm not wondering about technique or anything, because I know that's against the rules.)...how would two girls have sex? Okay, yeah that sounds like I'm asking for technique...Hold on, let me explain. I remember hearing somewhere about a girl losing her virginity to another girl, and I just never understood how that could be. I mean, yeah, two girls could finger each other and/or eat each other out, but isn't that is far as it could go then? Seeing as neither one has a penis? And then there's girls that say they've had sex with other girls, but what would that all entail? Because, granted fingering/eating out is a form of sex, but it's just not sex, intercourse. Or is it? Or do I have no clue what I'm talking about? Or, is it one of those type of things that you'd only know for sure after the fact? Like you just spent time together with another girl, eating each other out, feeling around, cuddling, and then it suddenly hits you, like "I just had sex with a girl."??

Help please?

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Heather
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How do ANY two people have sex?

In other words, unless you assume that ONLY penis-in-vagina intercourse is sex, which is silly, especially since for most heterosexual people with satisfying sex lives, it's hardly the only kind of sex they're having. For plenty, they'll "have sex" even regularly without intercourse, even when they've had intercourse many times in their lives. It's also a silly thing to assume/presume since sex is whole body, not merely genital. What's more, heterosexual intercourse doesn't even deeply engage the only organ on BOTH the male and female body whose only purpose is sexual pleasure, the clitoris.

(Might want to notice, too, that by your defintion, apparently, only when a penis is involved is something "sex," since you didn't ask about men having sex with men. And that's a pretty darned sexist and phallocentric defintion, as well as one which ignores that just like for women, for men, their WHOLE bodies can be sexual organs, not just their penises.)

Really, what "had sex" means in the most accurate sense is when two or more people have set to seek out sexual pleasure together via physical intimacy and have found it in whatever it was they did. And any other defintion tends to be incredibly flawed for a whole lot of reasons, whether someone is same-sex or opposite-sex partnered. And what most women mean when they say they had sex for the first time with another woman -- and what plenty of people mean when they say they did with someone opposite-sex, for that matter -- usually means just that, whether or not the actual activities were oral sex, manual sex, strap-on sex with a dildo, dry sex, what have you.

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ILoveRyanSeacrest29
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"(Might want to notice, too, that by your defintion, apparently, only when a penis is involved is something "sex," since you didn't ask about men having sex with men. And that's a pretty darned sexist and phallocentric defintion, as well as one which ignores that just like for women, for men, their WHOLE bodies can be sexual organs, not just their penises.)"

I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to seem sexist in any way, shape, or form. I just wasn't sure if I was missing something or...I just didn't understand. That's why I asked. I wasn't wondering about male/male sex, so I left that out, hoping I'd be easier understood if I just stuck to what I was hoping to find out. Sorry.

I knew that when two men would have "sex", it could be anal sex. But I was just confused as to what it would be called when two girls would have "sex" seeing as they couldn't really have "intercourse" or "anal sex". I hope that makes some sense now. Maybe?

Thank you for your explaination though. That's kind of what I figured, but I wasn't sure, which, again, is why I asked. It did help me understand it better. Honestly, you should teach my health class because everyone might actually learn something that way. All we ever talked about was "use protection" and it was only the general idea that there was one male and one female during the act. Where I live isn't very open on gay/lesbian relationships so we never covered it.

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Heather
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Don't be sorry, seriously: I wasn't smacking you down, I was simply putting it out ther for you to examine, because very few people ever really think about how sexist it is -- and how very much it can serv to make women passive in sex, rather than active participants -- when "real sex" is defined by penises.

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I knew that when two men would have "sex", it could be anal sex.

Well, it CAN be, but gain, ike anyone else, it isn't always. And plenty of men partnered with men have sex without engaging in anal sex at all.

And women CAN (and many do) have vaginal or anal intercourse with other women (and save differences in styles per speed and such, it earnestly feels pretty much the same as either activity with a man), either with hands or a sex toy (manually) or by using a dildo in a harness.


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its simple, 2 women can have SEX, but i see it wrong.
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Heather
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Maybe you need glasses.

(Homophobia, for the record? Not okay here.)


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quote:
Originally posted by Miz Scarlet:
Maybe you need glasses.

(Homophobia, for the record? Not okay here.)


What helps me is to squint a little until I see it right.


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