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kisses_goodbye
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me and my boyfriend have talked about oral sex and hes done it to me but i can never really ask him do you want it now. help on how i can ask him
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kisses_goodbye
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please help me i really want to and he told me he wants it it is hard to get a place alone and when we do i can never really ask him please help on some ways to hint or tell him i want to.
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Heather
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Hey, babe? This really isn't an emergency, and if it feels THAT urgent, it;s worth stepping back. Because partnered sex should never be something dire.

There should be no need to "hint" with a parner. Simply saying, "Hey, we talked about oral sex for you before, and I'm feeling like that's something I'm ready to try when we can find a place with some privacy."

And to quote Xander from Buffy, if you can't SAY it, you shouldn't be DOING it. In other words, if you're in no way okay talking about it, even this basically, then it'd be smart to reconsider your readiness.


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