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i dont know wat to do!!! me & my bf had sex this past weekend. we were safe and everything, and everything was good. it was my first time, and i really love him. that same night (right after i was with my bf) i went to my friends house & got drunk. well i ended up making out and messing around with this other guy that was at my friends house. it turns out that my bf & this other guy are really good friends. neither one of these guys go to my school, but everyone at my school and this other guys school knows, but my bf still doesnt know. & my bf is friends with a lot of ppl that go to the other guys school, too. idk if i should tell my bf, bc his ex-gf cheated on him with his friends, too and i dont want him to think of me like her. i really love my bf and i didnt mean for anything to happen with this other guy. i wasnt thinking straight. the next day, i talked to this other guy and we decided to just forget the whole thing & just be friends. should i tell my bf wat happened? or should i just let it pass? i dont think my bf will break up with me if he found out, but i just dont wanna hurt him like that. idk wat to do! i really do love my bf! wat should i do?!?!
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Honestly, it'll hurt him more if you don't tell him, and he finds out through the grapevine.

It should be a no-brainer to tell him, anyway, sweetheart. Communication, even in the worst of situations, is often what saves a relationship, even if it's news like this. Yes, what you did was stupid, not to mention illegal if you are underage. And you need to take responsibilty for what you did by owning up to your boyfriend.

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Tell him how sorry you are.

And, at the risk of sounding moralistic, don't get drunk again. Being intoxicated is a really good way to make mistakes.

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