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I know it's not appropriate to discuss technique in these topics but i was wondering if it's acceptable to either refer sites for technique or to like give our my email or SN to talk about that stuff privately? or is it the policy to just defer from any technique-related conversation altogether?
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Not that I have anything against it, but I read in another scarleteen thread that they won't allow any exchange of e-mail addresses because it's against policy to allow exchange between minors or to allow potential corruption through exchanging contact details.
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No, it's really not.

We've answered an aspect of this for you before: it isn't okay, as the registration guidelines explain, to post emails on the boards here, and that's for our user's protection. sadly, the world we live in is such that there are all too many adults who will lie about being teenagers and really take advantage of/prey upon minors talking about sex.

Per referring sites: if they are sites which are 18+, adults sites, then again, no, it's not okay to post them here. People who want to find them and break their rules can use Google for that, easy.

Moreover, and I think I've also said this to you before, let me be frank: I have done over the years, sex advice for adults as well as for young adults. Technique information seriously is very rarely helpful for ANYONE. I can't begin to tell you how many couples I've observed learning that, and becoming very frustrated, and really, having really crummy sex because they've managed to forget that it's creativity, invention, imagination, communication that makes for good sex, not a manual written like you'd see for putting a car engine together. Now, maybe if you and someone else had the same partner? Then it might be somewhat helpful. Otherwise, people simply differ way to much -- even day to day -- for most "put tab A in slot B" stuff to be anything but a big, fat waste of time.

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thanks for the clearup, and i understand your thoughts on technique and i agree with them, but sometimes ive gotten a few good ideas here and there from different resources. i know everyone is different, but i think sometimes its healthy to try new things and learn new stuff as well. however, i realize this is not a site for that type of thing and i'll steer clear of any talk of that, and if i had been aware of this before i wouldn't have posted the topic.

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Only universally valuable "technique" tip I ever heard:

Make sure you don't bang your head against anything hard, like the wall. ;-)

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