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TiffanyLynn
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OK i have a question, well i think its a question...maybe it's a statement...i don't know...but anywho

My friend just got married. She was a virgin on her wedding night. So you know, i had a whole bunch of question to ask her like..."How was the sex! What was it like!" I'm a virgin so...i don't know how it is. (by virgin i mean never had p/v sex, i know some people have issues with the term "virgin" on here so, thats what MY virginity is ) Anyway, she said it was ok...and that it doesn't feel any different from masturbating...she told me other stuff too...but she pretty much told me it was just OK. They have been married for 3 months now and the sex is STILL just OK...she says its only good when she's on top and she gets goosebumps all over and its just awesome...but here's my question (I think) what DOES it feel like? does it feel the same as masturbaton? is it sharper? is it deeper? what!!

by the way....yes i know it is different for everyone :P


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It feels like you have a penis inside you. Otherwise, what it feels like depends on a myriad of factors- how aroused you are, how comfortable you are, whether or not you're tired, how your partner is feeling...there is no one way that sex "feels," at least not for me.

I'm not going to toe the line here and tell you exactly what it feels like or is like to have sex. I think strangely enough it was Stephen King who described it as "an awful lot of rubbing for a little bit of warmth." Often it is not so much a physical experience for me as an emotional one and I don't mind that at all. Expecting sex to be mindblowing and physically fantastic every single time just isn't realistic...I prefer sometimes to have sex for emotional reasons, not just physical ones.

I suppose sex could feel like masturbation, depending on how you choose to masturbate, but everything is different with a partner. Not necessarily better or worse, just different. My orgasms with my partner are different than the ones I give myself, but in a way are more rewarding because I get to share in it with someone else.

What you experience and what your friend experiences will in all probability be completely different, because you are different people and your lovers will be different people.

Sex feels like sex is supposed to feel when it's consensual and safe. That's the best I can do to tell you what it feels like. if it feels physically good, that's normal. If doesn't feel like much, that's normal. It all just depends.

I will add, however, that it took about three and a half months before sex felt like much of anything to me. I don't really know why that is but what it felt like changed a lot after that.

Sex is about a lot of things- sights, sounds, emotions, physical sensations. To even attempt to describe what a combination of all those things is like is difficult...it's hard to put it in words. It's just a feeling.

[This message has been edited by laurencsi03 (edited 12-13-2004).]


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yes ma'am i know all of that. i'm seriously not trying to be umm...rude...or annoying but besides the awesome feeling you gain emotionaly, how does it feel PHYSICALLY. cause you know how like from clitoral stimulation it's sort of like sharp? and i know its not the same with sex but like when you SUPPOSITLY orgasm during sex does it even feel like an orgasm feels BEFORE you have sex? or maybe i just confused everyone even more...but it makes sense to me, lol
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well, we can't really tell you what it feels like because it is different for every single person. there is no standard "feeling" that every person is supposed to get from having sex- physically or emotionally.

just like we can't give out technique on this board- because no one way of doing something is right or feels good for every single person.

you really can't know or understand what having sex feels like until you actually do it yourself. and i'm not saying go out and have sex right now just to see what it is like. all i'm saying is that no matter what anyone describes to you about their experiences, they will always be different from what you may experience one day. and each time you have sex may be different and feel different from the last.


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yea thats what i'm afraid of....
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LilBlueSmurf
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I just wanted to point out that not every sexual encounter you'll have is going to lead to an 'awesome feeling emotionally'.

I thought it might the first time too, and it really didn't. And i was a little disappointed, but i got over it.

I just dont want you to set expectations so high that they're just impossible to reach ... it's unfair to both you and your partner(s).


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quote:
i know its not the same with sex but like when you SUPPOSITLY orgasm during sex does it even feel like an orgasm feels BEFORE you have sex?

Well, orgasms are orgasms.

They can vary a lot, and some people find they do feel different if they're experiencing vaginal penetration as well as clitoral stimulation, but it's not like there's some completely different sort of orgasm that you only get during intercourse.

And of course intercourse on its own isn't enough to get many women to orgasm.


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