Yeah . . I had sex for my first time two days ago with a guy that is pretty big. He could only get it in half way, maybe not even that. But for one, I wasn't that aroused and he didn't use a lubricated condom. Then he was fingering me for quite sometime. It hurt a bit so I just told him to mellow it down a bit. He tore me pretty badly and it hurts extremely for me anyways. I haven't really stopped bleeding since then. Is there like, anyway to make it not hurt as bad? Or well it hurt just as bad as last time I had sex if I have sex again?
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The fact that you weren't aroused has a lot to do with why you felt so much pain. And no lubricant as well, especially when you're not aroused. The next time you have sex, try using lubricant. And figure out what he can do to get you aroused before having sex.
And to add to this good advice (really, just to emphasize), a lubricated condom is not enough.
The lubricant on a lubricated condom is enough to help it not break when you put it on. For maximum comfort for both parties, and for helping out the efficacy of the condom, additional condom-safe lube is needed. You can buy this (some popular brands are KY Jelly and Astroglide) in the aisle where you find the condoms.
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