I had to write so I could say the silly things my parents said to me, the sort of goofy stuff I swore I would never say to MY kids if and when I was a parent…
So, here goes and thank you for giving me the chance!
If all your friends were dying their hair black, and dressing all black, and painted their nails black and… uh, no never mind that doesn’t work
If all your friends were getting their belly buttons pierced… Uh, nope hang on
OK, Umm how about had a cell phone, er…
Well that did not go as well as I thought. But what is for certain, like these examples above, the fact that others like you may choose to do certain things, or dress a certain way, the choice as to what is good for you is still your own. Good or bad, right or wrong, all those values belong to you. And try as they might, NO ONE can decide these things for you.
It can be hard to sort some of that stuff out at 40 let alone at 15. Finding what works for you and feeling like it matches your values is an evolving process too. You may find you feel differently about some things later on in life.
The “If I Knew Now What I Knew Then” thread in Sex Basics and Sexual Health is a neat spot to look at how some older folks (some younger too) have looked back at their decision making, and how it might be different now.
In general consider the consequences of your choice, what is likely to be the outcome of your action? How easy will it be to “undo” what you picked if you decide later it was not a good choice after all? Things that have more permanent outcomes probably warrant much more in depth examination and thought.
So, if 15 feels like the right age to remain a virgin to you, than it definitely is. If you feel that way at 17, 19, or 21 and beyond, that is how YOU feel and its right for you.
And it would appear from what logic_grrl notes the Law thinks it is right for you now as well, and they can be a lot harder to argue with than friends.
“Self-trust is the first secret to success” - RW Emerson
“In my day, we didn't have self-esteem, we had self-respect... and no” - Jane Haddam