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sparky89
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im worried about my friend she has sex with her bf nearly everyday expect when shes on her period she has been dating him 4 about 7 months now and they dont use protection she has been with about 5 guys and hasnt used protection she hasnt got pregenat does this mean shes got sumthin?
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logic_grrl
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It certainly means that she's got a very high risk of getting pregnant and/or contracting an STD.

Really, she's playing with fire here. If she doesn't want to get pregnant, she needs to wise up and start thinking responsibly about birth control.

You can help by letting her know that you're worried about her giving her some accurate information - maybe you could show her some of the articles on the Scarleteen website.

But ultimately, you can't force her to behave sensibly - it's her decision, frustrating though that may be.


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sparky89
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i hav tried telling her to use protection or go on the pill but she sed she dont like comdons and dont want to go on the pill and the other thong dats worrys me shes only 15 and has splet wiv a 32 yr old/
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smilee_kylie
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Woh-ah you really need to talk to this girl. She'll appreciate hearing it from a friend. Talk to your other friends too and maybe you can talk to her together. Ultimately she may choose to ignore you and if she wants to do that, that's totally her decision and you can rest assured that at least you tried. Maybe try explaining the risks, because she obviously isn't fully aware by the sounds of it. Getting the support of other friends will help too, she's more likely to listen if more than one voice their concerns.
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Bobolink
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I should also point out that it is an illegal activity for her to have sex with this partner. http://www.ageofconsent.com/unitedkingdom.htm

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sparky89
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yh i know its illgel bout i wouldnt want 2 get a m8 done they only did it 2 times n i cant seem 2 tlk 2 her every1 knows her as a slag i feel sorri 4 her
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JamsessionVT
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Hey Sparky;

Netspeak is really really hard to read and understand, so use good old plain English, OK? One of the guidelines, whic you signed to asked that you not use Netspeak when posting on the boards. You can read the guidelines by clicking "guidelines" at the top of the page

[This message has been edited by JamsessionVT (edited 10-25-2004).]


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logic_grrl
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quote:
i know its illgel bout i wouldnt want 2 get a m8 done

Legally, she's not committing a crime - the guy is. Even if the sex is consensual, legally she's the victim (although in practice in the UK the police tend not to step in if someone's just under the age of consent).

But regardless of the law, that sort of age gap does mean that it's possible that she's being exploited or taken advantage of.

The problem is not whether other people think she's a "slag" or not - the problem is that she's putting herself at risk here.


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Bobbaii
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If she has told you herself that she doesn't use precautions, have you advised her to?! She will probably know what methods of contraception to use but if she isnt using them and does not want to then there is nothing you can do but express your worries and perhaps advise her to get checked out.

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