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i understand that not every girl has an orgasim when having sex. but i have never have 1 since i have started and i thought i would have once at least once.

i can make myself have one thru masturbation but when i have sex w/ my b/f it never happens.

i was wondering if there was a way i could change that or if something wrong w/ my body.

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As you said, not every girl does have an orgasm by having penis-in-vagina sex. Clitoral stimulation is the most successful form that brings a girl to orgasm. Its all about communication. Tell your boyfriend what you like and where you like it. You may also like to read Orgasm and sexual response which talks about the science of how and why we get aroused. Sometimes girls will never get aroused by only penis-in-vagina sex. Some girls like to rub their clit up against the guy while they are having sex to help them reach orgasm. But it really is about communication.
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kylie covered itpretty well. just wanted to add a bit.

also, if you're able to orgasm though masturbation, then there's nothing wrong with you, even if you can't get there with a partner. it just takes some practice and trial & error.

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Hey there, I myself had never achieved an orgasm through penetration but then I recieved advice from a friend who explained exactly where the female G spot, roughly an inch or so inside the vagina facing your bellybutton, if this is hit during sex then you are more or less halfway there, Good Luck


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And yet, that isn't so for everyone, or for everyone all the time.

Once more, with feeling: MOST of orgasm is about AROUSAL. MOST of arousal is emotional and psychological. And some people can reach orgasm without genital stimulus at all!

For the aspects which are physical, while for one person, some type of urtheral sponge, or g-spot, penetration may help a person achieve orgasm, for another that may do nothing and kissing or massaging their neck might! And for the person for whom g-spot stimulus "works," it might do so on one day, or with one type of stimulus or one partner, and not the very next.

This is a BIG reason why specific technique information isn't helpful: it's relatively individual, and it's very anecdotal. And what works for you or I are personally is going to vary from partner to partner, situation to situation, year to year and even day to day.

(Let's also please remember that the whole world isn't heterosexual, while we're at it.)

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