I know you no one will be able to answer this EXACTLY but if people could share their experiences, it would be helpful and insightful to me...
Will it still hurt me my first time if my boyfriend has fingered me many times and if I'm completely aroused and not nervous or anxious at all? Like throughout some of the posts, I've been reading that it's best to have sex only when you're fully aroused and not scared or anything, then it won't hurt as much...did I interpret that right?
If girls could share their experiences, like how much it hurt when you first had sex if you were completely comfortable and turned on...I would like to know.
What you'll find, I think, is that for some people, the first time they had PIV (penis-in-vagina) intercourse was quite painful, for some it wasn't at all, and some fall in-between. If you're not nervous, fully aroused, using extra lubricant, you'll likely find it much more comfortable. And it's really always best to have sex only when you're fully aroused--I mean, if you're not aroused, why have sex?
Personally, the first time I had PIV intercourse was a little uncomfortable, probably because I was a little nervous since I'd heard it hurt. But really, your mileage may vary--a lot.
With my experience, my first time hurt...but not to the point where I couldn't take it. & I found that after the first 2 times of us havign sex, I bled a little. & that was even after he'd been fingering me & everything. I've never heard the "being aroused" technique...frankly, I don't think that has anything to do with pain. But, maybe you know something I don't.
But yes, it will hurt...expect some bleeding ((not too much of course, just dots...& you know, you may not even bleed. It varies...)) & also, expect some soreness in the morning. But it should be fine for you. =)
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Personally, my first time hurt like crazy. I've been fingered and used tampons before too. Fully aroused as far as I can tell, maybe a teeny bit nervous (cuz after all, it was my first time!) but not enough that I feel it made a big difference. I hurt a LOT and I bled a lot too, not just "dots" as the person above described. But most girls I know say it hurt just a little or not at all, so who knows?
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I know this is going to sound *REALLY* cool and responsible.
I was drunk as all get out my first time, so of course, I didn't feel a THING. [[ nor do I really remember ]]
I *DO NOT* recommend you get wasted for your first time or anything like that...because it'd be much better if you remembered it and felt all special and wonderful afterwards. I felt pretty great, I didn't hurt the next day....and honestly, you feel no different when it's all said and done with. I mean, I ran to the mirror the next morning and was looking at my face, trying to see if I looked more "womanly" or "grown up."
I didn't. I was still the short, 5 foot nothing, 100 pound blonde I'd always been. I was like, "Pssh. So. This is it. Wow. Big deal."
It really does make you say "Is that all there is?"
But good luck, and I hope everything works out. <3
It really depends on the type of girl .. My first time it didnt hurt at all..... In fact he was move nevorus then i was so i was the one doing things .... Like the other girl I looked at myself in the mirror after it was al over and didnt look any different and to be honset make sure it with someone special because it wasnt that good for me do to the fact i had no feelings for him..... anymore.... and becareful who you have sex with cause people talk alot ( well around here they do ) and you can get a bad rep
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My first time was interesting. At first, it hurt A LOT. So much that we stopped for a little while and had to try again. It still hurt, and it went something like this: push- ouch- withdraw, push farther- ouch- withdraw, so on and so forth. Once he was fully inside me, it didn't hurt any more. Then it was kinda fun. I didn't bleed at all (which surprised me). Just relax and go slow, and everything will be fine.
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My experience went pretty much like DiamondDog's- in ouch out a bit in again...- and it hurt a lot. With the whole arousal thing (obviously a good idea) I found that because I'd been with my bf for over a year and we'd been setting up for this for about 6 weeks (getting on pill, waiting for me to come back from a family holiday etc.) but I was still really scared (I don't know why and I didn't then) which I'm sure didn't help the pain thing and even stopped me from feeling aroused even though I was- what I'm trying to say is don't hang it all up on the first time, if it hurts then wait a bit and give it another go... practice makes perfect!
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Y'know, my first time receiving manual sex did hurt. Why? because I was a naive teenager who didn't know what the hell was going on. I wasn't even smart enough to tell him, "Don't stick your hand there! I don't like that!"
When I did get around to trying it with someone I did like, we hadn't thought about *lube*, and it burned for a few days afterwards, and i spotted blood. I was badly chafed.
Sex was different. It didn't hurt. Why? because I had lube, and I was ready. Luckily, by the time I got around to actual sexual intercourse, I had learned about things like lube and sexual response. Granted, I was no expert the first few tries, my start wasn't a bad one.
My first time was great. I was in love with my boyfriend and we had the room covered in candles with music and everything. He had already fingered me many times before, but I was still worried I would be tight. We went really slowly and he was just as nervous as me, if not more. I was completely aroused and we had lube as well. I didn't feel any pain, only a little discomfort. I was really surprised. I didn't bleed at all either. As we went along I got more comfortable and the discomfort even went away. We made love for hours that night. It was a great experience.
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