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tantaLizinShorty8
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ill try to make this short as possible but i've been having sex for a year now and i've been with 5 different guys and every time i have sex its really painful.. the last time i had intercourse a few weeks ago it felt like he was literally ripping me apart.. we had to take a break and then even after that i couldnt do it anymore i was almost in tears because of the pain.. and i havent been a virgin for a year.. does anyone know why this is?
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Heather
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You need to see your gynecologist. That is the very first step you should be taking. And if it's deep abdominal pain, don't wait another minute. get in there NOW.

Until you do that, to make sure it's not something like cysts, PID or an STI, abstain from any sexual activity.


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commonforeigner
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Find an intact (uncircumcised) man! One of the reasons why you experience pain is because of the lack of skin on your partners penis. The foreskin allows for him to thrust without having to make long thrusts. The shorter the better. Plus with long thrusts he will drag your natural lubrication out which causes even more pain.
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Heather
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HOLD UP HERE (and elsewhere, as I've mentioned, please).

Are you her gynecologist? Have you seen her to know she doesn't have, say, an ovarian cyst causing the pain? I'm doubting so.

Any person, of any gender, can vaginally penetrate a partner without discomfort to that partner, and with pleasure. They do not require a penis with a foreskin to do so. As well, what you're stating hereis beyond questionable. A woman can have deep penetration (and enjoy it plenty) and remain lubricated, or use as much latex-safe lubricant as she likes without pain. A woman with ANY partner can, and should, also communicate to that partner what does or doesn't feel good to her, nomatter what their equipment is.


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bettie
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In addition to Miz Scarlet's advice, having multiple partners or a number of partners in the course of a year means a barrier method like condoms are a must.

As such the issue of how the foreskin feels for the female on the recieving end of vaginal penetration, there is no difference on how a condom wearing circumsized or uncircumsized male feels for her.

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