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This post isn't really about any particular issue or quandry, more of an answer on a general basis:
I am 17. I am not "sexually active" in the sense that no intercourse is invoved (but I have done pretty much everything else- manual and oral sex). I am a very sexual person, that is simply a part of who I am, but sometimes I wonder if I don't make actions based on sexual desires alone.
I am not a person who is particularly outgoing, I don't go on a whole lot of dates, but I mostly like to get guy's phone numbers and just talk wit hthem on the phone... maybe go out on a few dates with them, but when I start to think about my motivations behind these encounters (be it asking for numbers, the phone conversations, or even the dates) I begin to wonder if I am not "falling" for this person solely based on the sexual excitment I think about.
Hmm.. I guess my question here is: if it normal for a person to be so sexually motivated? Or even, is there anyone here who finds themself to be a "sexual" person without being promiscuous? Of course I look at personality, and of course physical traits, but as much as personality counts, the sexual desire counts (fantasies or whatever).
Thanks very much for any replies!

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hey girl.. well, my question for you is what is so bad about being sexual? We are indeed sexualized beings. I think it depends on what you are looking for it relationships, are you looking for a long-term partner or just casually dating?! I think in order to be with someone you have to be attracted to them in some manner whether it be totally platonic or romantic or just plain sexual!
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