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I am a seventeen year old girl who has a moderate amount of relationship experience, but no (sigh) fulfilling ones. When it came to sexual activity, I had trouble getting aroused and would find myself looking at my watch during a perfectly good makeout session. Long story short, I found that I am a submissive girl and can only feel stimulated by a Dominant boy in an s/D relationship. I love to be spanked, tied up and humiliated. High school boys...aren't ready for that. I cannot find information or resources having to do with other girls my age who have these feelings (I guess most people feel that NOBODY, including teenagers, should enjoy these things).

Does anyone else share my feelings or know of any places where I can find more information?

Soft hair and a velvet tounge, I wanna give you what you give to me.

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Well, you can look at this: Working the Kinks Out. There is also a small bibliography there.

This is also a great organization/resource for kinky teens:

Ultimately, you're going to find in your life that it's not just in high school that finding D/S partners is difficult. While plenty of people are kinky, it's certainly not the norm and to boot a lot of people who are aren't out with it or comfortable with it. As you get older though, networking with other kinky adults is likely to get easier.

It is worth mentioning that while finding adult partners for D/S play is likely to be more fruoitful, until you're not a minor, doing such would put them in an incredibly risky legal position.

Heather Corinna
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Hi. I understand your attraction to S/M. I am a dominant female, also 17. I know how you feel. If you would like to talk to some other teens interested in S/M you should checkout There are lots of open minded teens there who share alot of the same thoughts. I really think that you would enjoy it.
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I've been kinky for as long as I can remember, and I realized what it all meant when I was 15. What sucks is that it's just really hard to be underage and kinky. My advice is just to wait it out before trying to find a D/s relationship.

In the meantime you can read books on the subject to get a better idea of it, think about what it all means to you, and know that you're not the only one and that there's abolutely nothing wrong with being submissive.

You were never no locomotive, Sunflower, you were a sunflower!
-Allen Ginsberg

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