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im 15 and like most 15 yr olds... i want to experience some kind of pleasure(sexually) but im not ready to have sex.. and when i do masturbate i feel as if someone is watching me... even when no one is around or home... sometimes i want to have sex.. but i think about what can happen after.. ill have to see a gyno. and i heard that hurts alot.. and i could get stds or aids/hiv and get pregnant and even get my heart broken.. plz help me.. ASAP!!

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Hey! This is an easy one... There are LOTS of ways to go about having sexual pleasure without actually having intercourse. I don't believe you specified if you want to experience sexual pleasure via one person (self sex) or two. Since yo're already masturbating, I'm guessing you're refering to a two person scene here.

Mutual masturbation (also refered to as a "hand job" or "fingering" on men and women respectively etc.) are one option, or oral sex (also refered to as a "blow job" or "eating out" on men and women respectively).

There is even yet another option if you don't even feel comfortable taking those steps: Dry sex. This is when a guy and a girl go through the exact motions of sex, but are wearing various items of clothes to cover their genitalia and prevent any fluids from maing contact with each other.

All of these things can stimulate sexual pleasure and do not involve intercourse. However, please be safe and use condoms and gloves when giving/receiving oral or manual sex.

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However, when it comes to readiness, most of the things that apply to intercourse also apply to non-intercourse activities.

You can still get STDs, for example, and you still have all the emotional complications of communicating with a sexual partner.

Doing "anything but" intercourse is not a magical guarantee of physical or emotional safety.

So if you're not ready for intercourse, you may well not be ready for other partnered sexual activities either.

If you're feeling anxious about masturbating, you're likely to feel just as awkward and uncomfortable being sexual with a partner - or even more so.

So slow down and get to know your own body and get comfortable with your sexuality before you even think about being sexual with anyone else. This article is a good place to start:

Sexual Response and Orgasm A Users Guide

(By the way, it's a good idea to get gyno check-ups once you've started menstruating, whether you're sexually active or not).

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