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Ok so whenever i'm about to have sex the guys always kiss me around my chest and play with my nipples. The problem is that my nipples are not sensitive as they are with other girls. Is there anything wrong with me? Is there anything I can do to change this?
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Different people are sensitive in different places. Some people dig nipples, others dig toes, others dig ears. Nothing wrong with any of them!. It's just what defines yourself as an individual rather than being the same as everyone else.

What can you do to change it?. Nothing!. There is nothing wrong with you to change it in the first place. The reason you probably dont feel arousal when your nipples are stimulated is because it's you probably have less nerve endings in that area than most people ( you are not deformed because of this so dont freak!!). The nipples are generally considered to be an erogenous zone, i.e. areas which arouse you when stimulated, such as the genitals, the sides of the neck etc. This does not mean everyone who gets kissed on the neck gets turned on, it's simply a generalisation, and like with all generalisations, it doesnt apply to everyone.

How do erogenous zones work?. They have more nerve endings under the skin than normal epidermis does, this is more responsive to touch. The area around the nipple and the areola is well innervated immeadiately below the epidermis.

So, to summarise, nothing wrong with not being aroused with nipple stimulation. Nothing you can do it change it either, I wouldnt worry about it if I were you. We are all wired up differently, thats what makes us unique!.

"I'm no good at putting myself in other people's shoes, I'm too busy getting my own to fit." - A.D. (Adam Duritz)

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Part of the fun of sex is finding out just where those erogenous zones are. Makes for great exploring.

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Another thought...where do you like to be kissed/touched/etc.? (That was so you could ask yourself; I don't really need to know.) Once you figure that out, you might like to guide your partner away from your breasts (one of the more obvious places for people to gravitate to) and towards whatever you do like...chances are your partner is probably more interested in pleasing you than in your breasts. (I hope that doesn't break the technique suggestions rule.)
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Originally posted by jennifer_nbct:
my nipples are not sensitive as they are with other girls.

Don't feel bad, or strange. I'm the same way, but I highly agree with Bobo, finding out where IS sensitive is A LOT of fun!
My spots are my neck, my stomach, and the small of my back, and bottom lip. LOL Apparently my boyfriend says that the neck is #1, but we were experimenting, and found the small of my back. So ya never know! Just let your boy know that you have other places that are A LOT more of a turn on when attention is given to them. Good Luck and happy hunting!


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