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Yarky
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well it kinda like this, my gurl dun want to go down on me, fair enough hey, but b4 me she went down on some guy at a party, and wot i can understand is y she dun wanna do it wid me, i mean ud think shed ratehr do it with me then she would of him, cos were been together for a yr, ive tried talking to her bout it, but she says she just dont want to, and wont give me a reason, we are close and usually can talk bout this stuff, and thats the only sex based thing she eva done so i dunno, and advice is appreciated
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please use proper grammar, your post is hard to read.

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perhaps she regrets going down on this other guy? Perhaps from that one time she decided she doesn't like it?

You should REALLY not be pressuring her or pestering her about it. Its not because she doesn't like you (she has chosen to be with you for a whole year), its that she doesn't want to do this one thing. you should respect that.


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Maybe it's because she was drunk?
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I have a theory... maybe it's because she was drunk =]
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Alcohol can slow down a person's reflexes, but it doesn't change their personality. Let's keep the one-liners and redundant posts to an absolute minimum, eh?

You know, it is possible to do something once, hate it, and never want to do it again, or at least not for a long time. If you tried tequila, thought it tasted nasty, and ended up being sick, you'd be wise not to drink it again any time soon. Likewise, even if it was just a matter of trying something and not really liking it (like me and olives), you'd probably avoid it from there on.

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Maybe you smell funny?
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-Jill
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Laugh, that is completely inappropriate; when posting you are to be respectful of others. Please review the guidelines.
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***Steel Magnolia***
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Use proper grammar before I get out my Pencil Sharpener of Doom (the 2006 Model), sharpen you to obliviation. Understood? I thought so.

Quite frankly if she doesn't want to go down on you then she doesn't have to. You have no place to push her. Just as she would have no place to push you if you didn't want to go down on her. My advice: Chill for a while with the whole issue, I'm not talking like days, or weeks, I'm talking at least a month. Chill out, let the subject cool off, and then approach her about it. Whatever you do though, don't be demanding, and don't push for it. After all, it isn't the end of the world you know.


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Milke
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Hey, *I'm* the scary one here, and even I don't make perverse pencil sharpener death threats!

Careful with the general rudeness and meanness, and that goes out to more than one person here.

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Well, if I were you, I wouldn't try to pressure or force her to do that...if she doesn't want to, then *she*doesn't*want*to*!
I think you should respect her right to choose if she wants to or not...you don't want her to get mad at you for pressuring her, do you?

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ah, I'm just playin'. No harm no foul.
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