I'm finally ready for sex, and I have been ready for a while - I've actually attempted having sex with two or three different boyfriends, over a period of a couple years. However, each time I try, with any guy, his penis will only go in a few millimeters before it starts hurting. Badly. I know first intercourse will cause pain for any girl, but this pain is the worst thing I've *ever* felt...(okay, short of one time i had the flu and i thought i was dying. heh.) I feel like someone's piercing my insides with a knife.
I've read the article about first intercourse, and I'm fairly sure it's not a problem with an inpenetrable hymen - I've been fingered before, and although it hurts a tiny bit and feels a little weird, his whole finger fits in just fine.
So: has this happened to anyone else here? Do any of you have any suggestions or advice for what I should do?
In all seriousness, though, if you're not already doing so, make sure you're using good quality condoms (Kimono and Durex are two good brands) and lots and lots and LOTS of a good waterbased lube such as Astroglide or KY. Also, take your time, and make sure you're relaxed and aroused before attempting penetration. Pentration can be very painful if your vagina is too dry and there's too much friction, or if you're tense and trying to go too fast.
Even if you think you are ready to do it, you might be tense anyway. Happened to me. I was fairly calm, it was all pretty natural to me but it started hurting anyway. THEN I noticed I was tensing up anyway... And relaxed and everything went just FINE ^__^.
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Have you been to the gynocologist yet? If not, then you should. You've been menstruating for several years now (I assume) and you're sexually active, so you definately should be seeing a gyn annually. Your gyn should be able to shed some light on the potential hymen issue and check to make sure that everything is alright.
omg i have totaly the same problem! actually, i've only tried sex once, and that was today! and thats why i came on here, coz it hurt soooo much that i just had to stop him, i felt sooo stupid, but he was soo nice and understanding, anyhow, yes i kinda need some answers too, plx help xxx
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omg thanks soo much for that..i think i get it now hehe..it helped loads. i dicided to show my boyfriend this site and we talked about it and figured out what was wrong, so im very pleased about that
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