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Hi, I have no problems being able to orgasm by my self, but i just cant orgasm with my boyfriend in any way (like oral, intercourse etc). With intercourse it doesn't bother me too much as i really enjoy just being close to him in that way, but say with oral or anything else he does just doesnt work for me. Its starting to bother me as i really would like to experience an orgasm with him and not just by my own hand. Please any help??
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Hi frenchy,

have you shown your partner how you like to be stimulated and how you masturbate?
Have you told him what feels good, and what doesn't, have you maybe lend him a hand while you were having intercourse?

If not: do it now, gal.

Communication is essential for good sex and orgasms. If your partner doesn't know what you like best, and hence busies himself with stuff you only find mediocre, of course orgams won't come. - Also, don't forget that orgasms aren't something that will be "delivered" to you - you have to voice what's good, and there are no rules against stimulating yourself during intercourse either.

And just in case you haven't read it yet, check out Sexual Response and Orgasm A Users Guide

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it just takes time and practice, practice makes perfect!
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if your boyfriend is a keeper he'll have the patience to do whatever it takes to make you feel as good as you can. If he can handle some direction and he doesn't get frustrated too quickly... the two of you can discover what makes you feel the best.
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