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alyssa_corday
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Hey i have a question...
my boyfriend and i decided to have sex but the only condoms he had at his house were ones that were a year out of date, we decided that they ones were better than none at all...why do they have an expiration date? Is there a higher risk i could be pregnant? (I know i wont have an STD because he was the first person i slept with and i asked him to get checked out and he was clear) the condom didn't break or anything, his come was inside it.
Please help me!

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Heather
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If it didn't break or tear, you're okay.

They have an expiry date because the latex does degrade over time, so basically, you got lucky. In the future, don't use condoms past their expiry dates, and prepare in advance of sexual activity to have the birth control and safer sex tools, like good condoms and lube, well within their dates, at hand.

I am also going to say this, and please understand I'm not calling your boyfriend a liar: very few young men get tested. Yet by the posts at Scarleteen, it would seem almost more young men get tested than young women, which would be the very opposite of what clinics report. In other words, it's safe to say that it's likely most boyfriends telling their partners they have gotten tested have not. That may or may not be the case with your partner, I don't know. But it is clearly the case with a lot of boyfriends here saying they've been tested when they have not.

But those who HAVE will not be likely to tell a partner they're "all clear" because their doctor will have explained that some of the most prevalent STDs and STIs, like genital warts and herpes, cannot be tested for in men accurately if there are no visible sores, and BOTH those diseases can be present but asymptomatic.

So, even if he DID get a screen, that doesn't mean he is all clear by any stretch, so STIs are still certainly an issue.

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AlwaysWorried
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why do they have an expiration date? Is there a higher risk i could be pregnant?

Because eventually, they will start to degrade. If they were stored in a place with a constant temperature that wasn't too high or low (plus a few other conditions, humidity?), then they may last a bit longer, but I personally wouldn't trust them.

(I know i wont have an STD because he was the first person i slept with and i asked him to get checked out and he was clear)

Have you yourself been checked though, you don't have to have sex to get an STD, the name just means that sex is one way that they spread.


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alyssa_corday
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What about a blood test...would stds not show up there?
Could i still have stds from before even though i've never done anything sexually with anyone other than my boyfriend? I've never even kissed someone else!
thank-you for helping me!

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bettie
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Just to follow up on a point Heather made, and I do not mean to single you out because this advice is for all guys and gals out there, when you discuss STD/STI testing with a partner I think it is a good idea to go into detail, to ask questions, to get specific.

Example:

When did you get tested? Where did you go? What tests did they give you? When did you get your results? What was the testing like? How did you feel? Was that your first time getting tested? How did the doctor treat you?

I understand the importance of trust ina realtionship, but to have trust you need to be honest and have full dsiclosure about your sexual practices and health.

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Heather
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If what he said he got was a blood test chances are he had an HIV test, if anything. And while it's good to get tested for HIV, it's only one of MANY STIs, and often the least likely for young heterosexual teens to have.

So, doesn't sound like he did have a full STI screen, even for those one can get screened for (if he had, he'd also have had some urine testing and urethral swabbing -- which isn't comfortable, so it's something you'll find most men who get screens do bring up). You can find out more about testing here: Testing, Testing…

As far as you, yes, you could. Some really can almost ONLY be transmitted sexually. But others, like say, oral herpes, one can have from childhood onward via nonsexual contact. And if you have engaged in other activities with this partner unprotected (like fellatio) you've already had a sexual risk, to boot.

Which is why we espouse the basic safer sex practices you'll see almost anywhere, which are:

- 6 months of sexual monogamy for ALL activities
- 6 months of safer sex practices for at least all high risk sexual activities,
and
- at least TWO full STD and STI screens for both partners

... before considering any unprotected high-risk sexual activities, like oral, vaginal or anal sex.

More on safer sex right here for you: Safe, Sound & Sexy – A Safer Sex How-To.

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