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freakedout
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Okay, i don't really know why this happens almost every time me and my boyfriend have sex, but it seems like he's the only one who gets completely aroused... i think i've only had an orgasm twice when we've had sex. It's not that i don't like the sex, because i do, it's just that i never get to that point. And sometimes it's really frustrating because before we start, i'll be completely horny, and then when we're "done" i still am, because he's the only one who got off. But then he's not in the mood anymore since his tension was released, so i don't get anything out of it. Like for the most part, he won't finger me or anything after because he's trying to recooperate. Does any of this make sense??
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Milke
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This is the sort of situation where you need to speak up and make your desires known. It's okay to like different things from your partner, or need a bit more or less stimulation than they do, and anyone who cares about their boy or girlfriend's sexual enjoyment should be receptive to such requests.

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cumquat
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If he doesn't want to continue after orgasm, yoi could have have him focus on you, doing things that will help you unwind, before moving onto intercourse.

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