I've never had an orgasm! Like never! I've masturbated alot, had intercourse, had oral sex performed on me, and been fingered---but nothing! is it possible that I can't have them?? Like I enjoy sex alot, it feels good but I never get that OH WOW feeling, you know? I know there is the whole orgasm guide thing but i dont see anything about never having had one. Ohhhh this is making me nervous!
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Thing is, it's kind of nearly impossible to know if you've had one if you're expecting to feel a certain way, because more times than not, people's expectations of orgasm aren't necessarily their realities.
Does it all feel good? Because that's what matters, and that's the way to orgasm, or great sex without orgasm -- which can be equally fulfilling, for the record.
Too, TRYING to orgasm is the best way to keep from having them, bar none.
Unless you have one of a few specific physical disabilities (e.g. spinal cord injuries or diabetic neuropathy), it's very unlikely that there's a physical reason that would mean you can't ever reach orgasm.
However, it can often take a while to get to know your own body and its responses well enough to figure out how to reach orgasm. It's a bit like learning to ride a bicycle .
If you're "pre-orgasmic" (have not had an orgasm yet), that's nothing to be nervous about and it doesn't mean there's anything "wrong" with you. An orgasm is a pleasurable sensation, not a badge of achievement .
the orgasm is a funny thing to me. Can anyone tell me the theory why some women think orgasm is the be all - end all of sex? it's not in movies, old or recent, not in books....
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