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Hey there -

My boyfriend was fingering me the other night and I started to feel cramping in my abdominal area. It got pretty painful... to the point where he had to stop. Also, there was some spotting... what happened? Did he possibly break the hymen?

What do you think?

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I wonder if the two events were related at all. could it be that your period was starting? You may indeed spot a little if your hymen was broken, but then again you might not. Abdominal cramping would seem unlikely to be related, but then again not impossible. If you were very anxious and not very arroused at the time if might have led to cramping. I still wonder if you think since then if it might be related to your menstral cycle.

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It is likely that you could have been nervous or not in a state of arousal which led to cramping. As Mingo said, it could also be because it was near your period. Personally, any physical activity which happens near the time of my period causes pretty bad cramping.

I would suggest you and your bf use latex gloves and lubricant when engaging in manual sex. Not only is it much safer, it also prevents any tearing or scratching which might happen. Long fingernails and manual sex do not go very well and could be a reason for the "spotting".

So just abstain from all sexual activity for a while. Should the cramping and spotting continue, do see a doctor or a gynecologist for a full check up to see all is alright. If you are engaging in sexual activity, a full STD screening for both you and your bf should also be done.

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And let's keep in mind that the hymen isn't like the paper seal on a can of coffee - something you must rip through to access the contents. An good analogy I've seen here on the boards is that it's more like the neck of a new sweater: a bit tight at first but easily stretches out with a bit of wear. For more on hymens check out:
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When I had sex the first time I felt the same feeling, cramping. I wasn't near my period. I think it might be the hymen stretching.


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