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orbitz
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I wanted to know how, after having sex more than once, it stops hurting.
I know that the vagina 'shrinks' back to it's original size like before having sex, so how does the pain not return every time you have sex?

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emsily0
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ok, you know how when you start trying to do a split, or touch your toes, or otherwise stretch your muscles, it hurts and you can't go very far? but after awhile, you can eventually touch your toes. your muscles stretch out. however, that doesn't mean that they can't go back to their original position. just like your skeletal muscles are extremely elastic, your are your vaginal muscles. they stretch out, and then they go back, retaining the ability to stretch.

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orbitz
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So is there anything I can do myself to retain flexibility?
Because if there is something I can do personally, I would if it would make sex less painful.
Thanks

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alaska
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check out Intercourse 101 on how to make the first few times you have intercourse work.

If you've had sex more than a handful of times and are still experiencing pain, even though you use lots of lube with your condoms and make sure that you are aroused, you should bring this to the attention of your gyno, to rule out any physical reasons.

...and well...let's not forget that for many gals, first intercourse is NOT painful, too. Lots of it depends on whether tehre is a hymen to start with, whether someone is aroused and takes control and on a ton of other things, too.

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orbitz
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but is there anyway I can get rid of my hymen?
I'm a dancer, and I wear tampons, but I've still got it.

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alaska
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Orbitz, dear, you really do not have to worry about your hymen. I promise. There is NO need at all to "stretch it out" before you have intercourse.
The hymen is a soft piece of skin, and when you will decide to have intercourse, and when you are aroused then, and take your time, and take control, the little bit of pain will be bearable. Seriously.
This, of course, depends on how high your pain tolerance is, but really, for lots and lots and lots of women, first intercourse either was not a painful event at all, or the little bit of apin was bearable.

And please check out that article that I linked to. It has tons of helpful advice for the day that you decide to have intercourse.

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alaska
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For more all about the Hymen, you might also want to check out

Magical Cups and Bloody Brides

and

Pink Parts: Female Sexual Anatomy

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Caro
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"Through repetition the magic will be forced to rise."
Alchemical Precept


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