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Scythe
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Just wanted to know something. I plan on fingering my gf in a few days, or whenever the time feels right. My question is, how can i tell if shes sexualy excited?? I dont want to try to do stuff and then at the end realize she got nothing out of it. I have talked to her about it, about being open and all, but im sure there is another way to see if shes ready or not. Like if shes wet or not?? I dunno. Anywho, where could i buy vanilla flavored condoms???

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KittenGoddess
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Lubrication isn't automatically a sign or arousal. Generally a woman's vagina will produce extra lubrication when she's sexually aroused, but at different times during her cycle, that lubrication might be more or less. In fact, over the course of a sexual encounter, the amount of lubrication can change. The best way to tell if she's sexually aroused or is enjoying what's happening is going to be to actually ask her. That's the only way you're going to know.

Oh, and for safer manual sex, don't forget the latex gloves and water-based, condom-safe lube!

Also, generally you can buy vanilla flavored condoms at a drug store or supermarket with the other condoms. Although some stores won't carry vanilla and others will, it just kinda depends...but generally there will be some sort of flavored condom avaliable. Otherwise, you can order them online, or if you're over age, you can get them at a store that sells sex related items.

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orbitz
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Hey there...
For the vanilla flavoured condoms, or heck- tond of flavuors!- the IT Store in Canada, and I'm sure many stores that sell joke stuff, and funny adlut t-shirts and stuff might seel them! heh..
As for your other question, I can say that a lot of girls like differnt things. Really, the only way you're going to find out is by asking her what she wants- and you're probably not really up to that, so really just go with the flow. You might surprise her!

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alaska
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As to what orbitz says: please make sure that when you buy condoms outside a drugstore, supermarket or condom boutique, that the condoms you buy are actually not just "fun condoms" and do not protect you from pregnancy and STD; there is usually a warning on the package.

Any condoms that you use should have a seal of approval from your country's testing services and should also have a best before date on every wrapper.

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Nebraska
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Hm.. Well you can just basically tell if your girlfriend is pleased w/ what you're doing by.. 1. If she's wet that's a pretty good sign.. 2. How she reacts physically.. Like does she actually seem to act more excited 3. Moaning.. You know you've done good if you get some moaning..
That's all there is to it I believe..

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KittenGoddess
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Woah there Nebraska! That's making some pretty big generalizations, don't ya think? As I said earlier, you can't judge arousal based on lubrication a great deal of the time. That can change alot over the course of a sexual encounter...so she may be really aroused, and not be all that wet at all.

Moaning and physical reactions can be good indications if you already know that's how your partner reacts. I know that porn movies would like everybody to believe that when women are feeling good, we all writhe around and moan and have huge screaming orgasms...but in reality, that's not necessarily the way it is. Some women do moan and move around alot, some women will actually become silent and not move much at all. If you already know that's how your partner reacts, then it might be fine to take that as a sign of arousal, but if you don't know...then you certainly can't assume because she isn't moaning like a porn queen that she's hating every second.

Stick to asking her (the same way she should ask you if you're enjoying what's going on). Women don't come with a little red light that comes on when we're done, or when we're ready to go. Ya gotta ask.

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