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My guy will not do anythgin more than kiss me we have been going out for almost 5 months and we are 15 why is he being so slow i don't want to go to far maybe up my shirt but something, anythign like this ever happen to u? its weird all of his friends have told him my friends and we have talked about it but he still won't? is somethign wrong with me?
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Honey, maybe your partner simply doesn't feel ready for anything beyond kissing yet. And IMHO, you should really respect this and not pressure him into something he doesn't want. And maybe you should talk to HIM and not to his friends or your friends.
If someone doesn't want to do something, it's perfectly alright - no matter whether everyone in their friend's circle have already done it or think one should have done it.

And well: Respecting boundaries is -in my book- the ground rule in a good relationship.

How would you feel if he was pressuring you, through your friends, into something you didn't feel ready for?


So chill here a bit, honey, and respect your partners decision.

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Caro is absolutely right. It doesn't matter how old you are or how long you've been together. If he (or yourself) doesn't feel comfortable doing something, then there shouldn't be any pressure to do it. Talk to him about it, see why he doesn't want to. Maybe he's just shy, maybe he's not ready, or maybe it goes against his beliefs, which is fine and dandy but it will stop driving you nutso.

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