Hiya, I've liked this guy for about a year now, and although we are not in a serious boyfriend/girlfriend relationship (weboth see other people) we meet up from time to time and usually end up doing something of a sexual nature.I have given him a hand-job a number of times and he usually doesnt take to long to orgasm.I had full sex with him the other day, however,(for the first time with him) and we were at it for about half an hour, until he came. I was just wondering if he took so much longer to come because he didnt enjoy it. It was only my second experience of full sex, and my first one was very brief. Thanx for ur help, Rach *kisses* Posts: 10 | From: UK | Registered: Jul 2000
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That could've been because of a lot of different things, maybe he just reacts differently to P-V sex. Maybe he enjoys it more, maybe he enjoys it less, the only way for you to know is if you ask him.
Maybe he was enjoying it soooo much that he dragged it out for an hour and a half! Just kidding. I'm sure if it wasn't pleasurable for him, he would have stopped. Maybe it was because he was more experienced - first time sexual experiences usually tend to be shorter. All that matters is that you were safe - you did use a condom and lube, right?
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One of my ex's took two months to orgasm from PV sex. Everyone is different and orgasms (or doesn't) at different times during different sexual activities.
Not enjoying it and not orgasming are two very different things. Good sex doesn't necessarily mean orgasm(s). If you're having sex for that reason alone, i think you need to reorganize your priorities.
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Duff hit on something really important here: The only way for you to know is if you ask him. We don't know, you don't know - he is really the only one who knows if he enjoyed himself. And heck, orgasming or not orgasming isn't even an indication of enjoyment, you guys. It's the result of an effect.
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