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LilBlueSmurf
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A recent study has shown that almost half of all women would prefer a female ob/gyn. Not surprisingly, most of these women are under 25 or have reported bad experiences w/ gyn appts.

The same could be said about males tho. Many of my closest male friends (including my bf) have stated in no uncertain terms that it would be "weird" to go to a female urologist/doctor.

Whats your opinion when it comes to the gender of your doctor? Is it ok for gender to be an issue when choosing a doctor?

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Eppy
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I personally would prefer a female gyn. I fit the statistic, since I'm 19.

My mom for the longest time went to a male, who she swore was the best ob/gyn she'd ever had. He delivered my lil brother. By the time I was old enough to have to go though, he had retired. So I go to this great female midwife. She keeps her tools on a heating pad. She explains everything shes going to do before she does it. I'm totally comfortable around her, and actually like going there better than going to my general doctor.

I think a lot of girls would think it's weird to go to a male gyn. And I bet a lot of abused women and girls would have a problem with it too. But that's just a guess.

Edit: Just thought of something: Also, no matter how educated he is, and man will never know exactly what it feels like to have cramps, or give birth. A female would understand.

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Honestly, I really don't care.

A professional is a professional, and I should above all just hope that my doctor has been properly trained. Their gender doesn't make a whit of difference to me.

Case in point: Monday I have an appt that my mother set up for me, just a "well woman exam" to get my pills represcribed, do an STD screen, etc. I have no idea who this doc is other than "Dr. Doe." And it doesn't worry me. ;]

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My mom refuses to ever have a male doctor, and she used to be a labor and delivery nurse! I however, don't think I'd have a problem with it. I've never been to the ob/gyn, but I've never had a problem with male doctors.

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I, honestly would prefer a female gyn. I'd feel kind of weird if i had a male gyn. I just feel more comfortable w/ a female b/c they experience the same things that i do so i feel more open to talk about things. That's just personally how i feel.

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quote:
Originally posted by Eppy:
Just thought of something: Also, no matter how educated he is, and man will never know exactly what it feels like to have cramps, or give birth. A female would understand.


That makes sence to me. It doesn't really bother me whether or not the doctor is female though but I guess I've never really thought about it.


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i will only go to women doctors. no guys for me and i also fit the statistics because i am only 19. i just feel uncomfortable enough at the gyn and i dont need a guy that is not my husband to make me feel even more uncomfortable. so i will stick with the women.
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I think i would prefer a female docter. I just feel more confortable, and i feel like they would really know what i'm going through. Well, with certain stuff.

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Eppy, following your line of reasoning, do you feel female urologists would be incompetant to deal with male reproductive systems? Should only male doctors perform prostate examinations?

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Eppy
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I don't think male Ob/gyns are incompetent, but I don't think they can sympathize with women's pains and things as well as a woman could.

That being said, I don't think a woman can know exactly how a man would feel with whatever problems he can have, but I don't feel that in either situation, one would be more competent than the other.

I'm not saying that we shouldn't have male ob/gyns, simply explaining why I don't want one. I meant no offense.


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It depends on who you are comfortable with. When I first getting annual check-ups, I just told the person at the front desk that I was really nervous about it, so she gave me the "old grandmother type" gyno which definitely put me more at ease. That and she even had a female nurse come in and hold my hand since it was one of the most terrifying experiences of my life.

But now I see my regular physician for those exams. His speciality is internal medicine and is qualified to give annual exams. I'm comfortable with him doing it since I've known him most of my life and he's a very trustworthy doctor (probably helps that his son is a good friend of mine). I would be rather weary of a strange male feeling around down there, but I trust this guy.

For all other specialists, it doesn't matter to me at all what gender they are. If they're a total professional, then there shouldn't be any worries.


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quote:
Originally posted by Eppy:
I don't think male Ob/gyns are incompetent, but I don't think they can sympathize with women's pains and things as well as a woman could.

What does it really have to do with sympathy? That would be like a female ob/gyn shouldn't treat males because they wouldn't be able to sympathize with the fear or pain of prostate cancer. Pain is pain, no matter what it is from. I wouldn't discredit a male ob/gyn just becuase he can't feel "cramps." I do not go to a ob/gyn for sympathy.


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Hmm ... I have to disagree w/ what you said, blackbird.

I don't think it's really about who can sympathize more. I've been to many doctors about having severe cramps and heaving bleeding ... Male doctors don't know what it feels like. Having not been through it, all they can really do is listen and prescribe what they feel is best. They have no personal experience w/ what works best on cramps. Sometimes that counts. It's not about discrediting anyone ... I know i personally feel better w/ a female doctor b/c i know she's been through a pelvic exam before and has likely had a bad period or given birth ...

On the flip side of things tho, I've heard that many male doctors are more gentle during exams just b/c they don't "own the right parts" and dont know what it feels like. I guess it could be taken both ways.

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As far as whether or not I'd feel more comfortable, I think there isn't really a difference for me. My first few smears and gyn exams were done by a male doctor.. and I felt no different - simply because a health professional is a health professional.

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I just dont' think it's fair to generalize it to "all male doctors."
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i like having a female gyno., its alot easier to talk to em and you can relate to em easier
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Personally, I prefer a female gyno although I do have a male one at the moment. There's nothing wrong with him but I do feel that I'd be more comfortable being examined by a woman. So far I just haven't been able to muster about enough enthusiasm for shopping for another doc.
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well...i dk, this is just personal preference, i think i would rather have a female, just because she has the same parts, and i wouldnt have to worry about molestation or watnot. i dont know, its just my idea of a gyn
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Camzie, women can violate women, and men can violate men - men can violate women, and women can violate men -

Sexual violation knows no gender boundaries.

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Good point, lem!

It's not really generalizing if the point is that male doctors can't have periods. And they can't give birth. And they've never had to have a pelvic exam and felt extremely weird lying on an exam table w/ their feet in stirrups, having someone poke and prod into their vagina. Even little things like that matter to some people. It's only generalizing if it were possible for them ... but it's not.


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I have to go to a gastrointerologist (stomach and bowel doc) often. I have to have an exam that includes a rectal. I go to a guy doc, and that does not bother me at all. No gyns yet for me.
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Thanks to those who stressed that gheneralisations really aren't fair and that sexual violation knows no gender boundaries.

I personally go to a doc who is male, and really, his gender doesn't matter to me at all. He's a great gyno, he treats me well, and that's the important bit.

I am not so sure about women in general being able to relate better to "female pains" - first of all, we do not all experience cramps (and hell, i do not think I know or can relate to the cramps caused by endo that my best mate had, me being female or not). In addition, I have read rather interesting statistics on the treatment of breast cancer by male and female docs. I'll see whether I can find them.

In any way, I can understand that some people have gender preferences, but i really do not have them. What counts is that the doc is good and treats me the way I want to be treated.

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