I'm thinking of useing birth control but I dont know how to ask my parents about it. Do you have any tips on what I should say? Also if you go on birth control are there any side affects? Thanks!
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As for a good way of talking to your parents about it, try talking to them hypothetically, e.g. "What if..." This will give you a better idea of haw they might react. Even if you are uncomfortable talking to them at first, most parents are a wealth of experience waiting to be discovered.
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I think this is one of those things that you have to be straight-forward and honest about. Do research on the various methods of birth control, become well informed. Then breach the topic with your parents on a good day, like when you're feeling especially close to them and can talk about this. Maybe start off like, "Mom, you know James and I are in a good, healthy relationship. And lately, we've been thinking of having sex and we would like to do it responsibly..." I don't what your situation is but that's just an idea. I applaud you on being open with your parents and wanting to be informed and responsible. Good luck!
Cheate a situation when you are alone with one parent, so don't start it at the dinner table with everyone around or when your parent is stressed. How about a mom & daughter trip to the mall or a walk together or a long car ride somewhere or just anytime you are together and no one is likely to disturb you?
Bring across that you really worry about both pregnancy and STDs and want to protect yourself the best that you can. And that your mom's input is important for you and that you'd appreciate her help in finding a good gyno.
Good info is the key - in addition to what the others have linked to, you'll find a big chunck of links to good sites on contraception in the resources section of "reproduction".
Good onya for wanting to be open about your sexuality with your parents. Wishing you all the best for opening communication!
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