alright- i seem to be in the minority among people i know when it comes to sex, sexual thoughts, masurbation, etc. i haven't had sex, i don't masturbate and i rarely have any kind of sexual thoughts or fantasies. i've been kind of seeing this guy for a while. like we go out everyonce in a while and we hang out and we went to each others proms. we haven't even kissed yet. i like him a whole lot and lately, these thoughts/images of having sex with him just pop in my head! it's driving me crazy cuz i don't think about it on purpose, they just pop up! it's really kind of new to me and i feel wierd about thinking about him and i like that. i guess i'm just asking for ideas or thoughts about this or something, i'm not even sure what i'm asking! but it's definitely odd... for one because i don't plan on having sex anytime soon but i could definitely feel comfortable with him. not *now* but i could see it happening in the future if we end up serious... ahh! it's all news to me...
------------------ " Life move pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." - Ferris Bueller
Don't worry, it's completely normal. Sexual feelings can be pretty powerful, so it can be a bit of a shock when they start kicking in, but it's a natural process, and you can use it as a way to start thinking about what is good/not good for you sexually. It doesn't mean that you have to start having sex with your partner- you seem to know yourself well enought to know that you're not ready at the moment- but there's absolutely nothing wrong with thinking about it.
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That sounds very normal. Most people go through the EXACT same thing. I was in sixth grade. It's okay, eventually that will calm down a little. And even if it doesn't, it doesn't seem like it's affecting your life.
By the way, it's good that you know you don't want to have sex with this person. Sexual thoughts/fantasies are normal, and don't mean that you are ready for sex. It just means you've got a regular brain.
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