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Alright, so you're becoming sexually active. You've read the site, you're emotionally and physically ready. You've got the condoms and everything else you could possibly need, and you've discussed it fully with your partner. You've done everything you can possibly do to try to prevent pregnancy and STD/STI transmission.

Do you still have that little twinge of fear that you somehow might have mysteriously gotten pregnant or caught something?

I guess this is something that's just occured to me because I've just recently become sexually active (oh my, I said it again...that seems so strange to say). And we were careful (we also didn't have intercourse), but still I had those moments where I found myself mentally reviewing every action to try to reassure myself that there was no possible way anything could have gotten close to me. Was the condom all the way on? Did he wash his hands? Did I wash my hands?

Does anybody else find themselves thinking these things too? And if so, how have you dealt with it?


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Kitten, I know how you feel. I can be on the Pill, taking it every day at the same time down to the minute, with a condom and rubber gloves and a wetsuit and when that time of the month comes around I'm still biting my fingernails.

in my case, at least, I know it's not STDs. We're clean and monogamous and long-term and everything is okay. but pregnancy - I don't even want to think about it. and sometimes I get so stressed that I make my period late.

but recently, what I do is go over all the facts in my mind: I haven't missed a pill; or, the condom didn't break; or, I wouldn't be ovulating now anyway; or, he wasn't inside me and I washed my hands and I changed my gloves; or whatever. it seems to calm me down.

and then I think about exactly what I would do if I were late, plan out everything to the detail (where is that money going to come from, etc.), and my back-up is that I'm supposed to get my period on Friday, so if I don't get it by Monday, my butt is in Walgreens buying a pregnancy test.

it's the only way I can deal with it; and if ever I can't, I will stop having sex.

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well i have an iud and i still took a pregnancy test yesterday. i have a fear of becoming pregnant again. it gets to me sometimes. my live in friend just found out yesterday taht she is pregnant, we took the tests at the same time. but i am ok. and i hope i dont get pregnant anytime in the near future.
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