I've noticed some things around here lately that has been some cause for concern.
I know prom season just passed, and I've observed that a lot of people have been talking about having sex, losing their virginity, whatever have you after Prom.
I know it's common practice, but there's a lot of things people should be aware about.
Sex isn't about celebrating an occasion. Just because it is Prom, it's your anniversary, your significant other got into his/her choice of colleges, doesn't mean you have to have sex. Sex is about relationships with people, not the milestones they cross. There's better ways of celebrating things like that like going out to dinner or throwing a party.
What bothers me is that sometime people feel like because it's Prom, or because you've been together for a month, 6 months a year, it's the full moon, that you *have* to have sex. You are never obligated to have sex with someone. That's absurd, and that's not what consent is about. And just because it is Prom (or whatever other occasion), that doesn't necessarily make you ready to have sex. Too many people seem to make that mistake and they run into trouble later on.
It seems that occasions make people assume they have license to engage in unsafe activity. That's not true. it's like any other day; what's risky behavior one day will not suddenly become okay because it's the Grad Night.
What it comes down to is that if you're having sex because it's a "special day," then you're probably doing it for the wrong reason.
There's better way to mark your happy occasions than by having sex. And why not just have a nice romantic evening because you want to have a romantic evening?
Anyway, enough ranting out of me...
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