Lately i have been thinking about the idea of having sex....I feel that i am ready. I have talked with one of my really good guy friends and we are both feeling the same way, and we were thinking about doing it togeather. I was jsut wondering if anyone has lost their virginity to a really good friend of theirs and if they regreted it or not? Well thanks for the help!
Posts: 17 | From: West Linn, Oregon, 97068 | Registered: May 2001
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The best advice we can give you here would be to read the following articles. Again and again. When I first had sex, I thought I was ready until I came across our funky Readiness Checklist. Then I realised I was as ill prepared as anyone could humanly be.
Yes, certainly do read those articles that Lin posted. It may seem like alot but it'll be well worth your time.
Also, if you do decide to have sex (intercourse) with your friend, make sure that both of you understand the boundaries of the relationship. No false hopes, no leading each other on, no expectations for something more, etc. You get the idea.
------------------ "There's never enough time to do all the nothing you want." --Calvin&Hobbes
You have to read the checklists. It will make you realize, yes, we're on the right track, or no, we have a lot to still talk about. My boyfriend and I thought we had really covered everything-- until we came to the checklist. Most of the stuff we had covered, but it still opened up some more extremely important discussions. If you can't talk openly about sex, then neither you nor your friend are ready, so check it out, both of you, and then talk about it.
I had sex with one of my guy friend and ended up pregnant because of it. We are still friends and all, we used protection, but that just shows you that there is a margin of error in birth control methods.
Having sex with a friend can mess up a friendship, I have seen this happen a lot. You could catch a STD or STI,just for a few minutes of pleasure. You should rethink this. Look at the link suggested to you and make sre that you are not making a decision that you'll regret later on.
Posts: 91 | From: South Carolina, USA | Registered: Mar 2001
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