Good on Milke for everything she just said.
In another post, you described not feeling attracted to your boyfriend, and that in and of itself may be the greater issue here. Arousal is requored for orgasm. if you don't get aroused, you don't get to orgasm, either.
And it's fine to like toys for a while, and you know, if that is what feels best to you with a partner at any given time, all you have to do is use it with your partner if that is what feels good.
Yes, not masturbating for a while, period, can increase the liklihood of orgasm with your partner when you do so. But per usual, sexual partnership is about more than orgasm. And if it's just about getting off, it's probably kindest and best that you use a machine for that, not a person.
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