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well some books that have to do with sex, and involve trying a lot of new things, sexually and mentally, suggest that you may want to drink, or get intoxicated by other means to loosen youself up. (That is with your partener when you have both discussed the event and all)what do you think of this?
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It would seem to me that if a person had to anesthetize part of his/her brain in order to have sex, then s/he hasn't passed the sexual readiness test. Alcohol can relax you but it can also badly impair your judgement as several contributors to these boards have already mentioned.

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I think its the difference between having a glass of wine with someone to get the mood right, and having a few shots of tequila to make your date look passable. ;p

Its a question of intent - whether you're drinking to relax and enjoy the company of someone you care for, or if you're getting tipsy to try and deal with something.

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LOL @ ThisGuy ... you crack me up

But i'm somewhere in b/w ThisGuy and Bobo. Part of me says it's wrong at all ... But the wine thing w/ dinner seems fine. It all depends how much you mean to drink and why you want to drink in the first place.

If you can only have good sex when you're semi plastered ... Well that can't be good.

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'twas the Bard who said in MacBeth that alcohol "inflames the desire, and hinders the performance."

too much alcohol leads to lowered judgement and increased risky behavior. this is why i don't think booze is very good for sex and why ppl need to be a lot more careful at parties.

too much alcohol also hampers a woman's ability to self-lubricate, and makes it tougher for guys to maintain erections. neither of which make for very good sex.

The Second Law of Thermodynamics states that the universe is constantly moving to a state of greater entropy s, therefore, delta s is always greater than zero.

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I don't know what books you've been reading, but they were obviously written by authors who don't know a thing about the human sexual response cycle and how it works, or about understanding consent.

Gumdrop has excellent points. Studies have shown for a long time that having sex under the influence massively impairs judgement, and people who would usually use condoms and safer sex practices or effective birth control tend not to very often when inebriated. In addition, at Scarleteen, it is important we remind everyone here that if you are under the legal drinking age, you cannot lawfully drink.

And lemme tell you: if you ever end up in an acquaintance rape situation and were unlawfully drunk, you royally screw yourself when it comes to having a case.

In other words, just not smart. Not to mention the negative effects it has on sexual response.

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