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loveable me
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And is it a problem for you? Because it is often just the guys problem. But you can help. Here are some things that don't involve reading books and are just common sense.

Get him to slow down generally and take his time.
Get him to talk to you and ask you to slow down or stop for a while when he is close.
Play with him first to make him come with your hands or whatever and then let him pay more attention to you until he is ready again.

And most of all if this a problem for one or both of you talk about it in a feeling way that brings you closer together and also in a factual way to try to solve the problem. Most of all be accepting. That doesn't mean to accept that the problem will never go away but that you accept him as he is as a person. This is a requuirement for change!


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Hanne
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Here's a few thoughts....

Not every woman has sex with men. Or wants to. Or wants to have sex with men all the time.

Not everyone who has sex with men has penetrative, let alone penis-in-vagina, sex.

Not everyone thinks that penetrative (or penis-in-vagina) sex is particularly important or even desirable.

It's possible to engage in other kinds of sexual activities that are pleasurable and fun and where it really doesn't matter when (or even whether) a partner ejaculates. Some people prefer these kinds of sexual activities.

Penis-in-vagina intercourse is only one of many possibilities, and for many women, it's not even the one they like best or find most pleasurable.

Assuming that you're having heterosexual sex(and again, not everyone is going to do that), why does when a man orgasms make so much of a difference if everyone is enjoying themselves (safely)?

Hm. Food for thought.

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glitter695
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That might be your boyfriends preference, but it might not be anyone elses. Everyone had their own prefrences. You do have to talk to your partner to see what you both like. My boyfriend might like *doing* a certain thing and your boyfriend might not like that thing....If they come to quick its OK, they will learn what they have to do to make it feel good for them. Maybe they like ejaculating fast. Its just a personal preference. I dont mean to sound nasty, I think I might sound nasty, but I dont mean it.

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emsily0
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yes. i think what matters is if your guy thinks it's a problem, not if you think it's a problem, because your guy does not exist for your pleasure, if you know what i mean, and also as hanne points out, there are lots of other things to do that are not affected by premature ejaculation.

em


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d1TzY8
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Sounds like an infommercial.

"Does your guy come to quickly? Well we have a solution......"

hehe


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Milke
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d1TzY8
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"Just dial 1-800-123-4567..."

hehe


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Lin
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lol

You guys light up my life. Seriously.

How you can turn this topic into an infomercial is beyond me.


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Dzuunmod
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I didn't see anything in this post that confirmed (or even suggested) that the person who started it was necessarily a girl.
Also, I think that lovable me was treating the topic in a pretty respectful sort of way.
I think that maybe it might discourage some males from sticking around the site, when they view a thread about premature ejaculation and find a number of females making light of what is (whether it should be or not) something that weighs pretty heavily on many young male minds.

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