so i think sex and when to have it is not determined by age, really... i mean, okay, so say you're 10... then maybe its really not time for you to have sex... but i think that its up to the individual... whether you are ready for sex or not... no one can tell you when's the right time... i used to wonder that, too, though... but i've come to realize that with the right person and how ready i am... that determines when i'll have sex. hope this was helpful!
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Just about everywhere, there is a legal age for sex. Which is to say, do it any younger or with someone below it, and you or your partner could be facing some serious trouble, including arrest and imprisonment.
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I'm going to assume you mean sex with a partner.
There are indeed bounds of the law to be aware of. If you aren't aware of the age of consent laws in your area, look here for a general guideline: http://www.ageofconsent.com
From each country and state, you can look specificially at other detailed laws realting to sexuality and consent to see how they play out and are enforced, as that differs from place to place. If you're confused by this, call your city hall and ask about it. Even minors are citizens and you all have the right to understand what laws apply to you and how they apply.
my suggestion is that if you're thinking about what a minimum age might be, you're having doubts and looking for excuses why you shouldn't have sex. don't have sex if you're feeling that way! now might be a good time to think about why you want have sex. (if this is you you're talking about - if it's a friend, it might be a good time to talk to her about her reasons.) just don't rush into anything that you don't think that you're at heard ready for, sweetie.
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The MINIMUM? Is whenever you are ready, now I dont suggest that you have sex when you are 10 years old. But a lot of factors are involved in sex (any kind) and people dont realize it. Some people have sex when they arent ready and wonder why they ever did that. You have to be physically ready as well as emotionally and metally ready. You have to be ready you accept the consequences.
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What ever age a person is ready for sex is a good minimum age for them. I'd say that there can be a 13 year old who is ready for sex completely, and that there's a 40 year old who isn't ready at all. And at sometimes in your life you may be ready and other times you may not. I could be 15 and entirely ready which would be a good time to have sex, or I could be 35, depressed, self injuring, which probably wouldn't be a good time to have sex because I can't even take care of myself and make myself ready! So it varies from individual to individual, from year to year
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I just read the checklist on this website. I was interested in the emotional checklist especially. I think if i had followed this i would never would have had sex because many of the things i learned on the list i only learned through experience in relationships. I think the first two are the most important for a young girl (or any girl):
1. I am able to create limits (to say no when I want to) and can trust my partner to respect them at all times.
2. I can assess what I want for myself, and separate it from what my partner, friends or family want.
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